[serenityforever]

Hi. I am so glad that I found this community of people who have gone through the same thing as me and understand the pain of it all.
So here is my story....my mom got remarried when I was 13. At first I really liked the guy. He was only 27 and my mom was 36. At about the age of 14 he started doing weird things to me like rubbing my back and grazing my boobs and he would ask me to rub his stomach and very low. This went on for years. At the age of 18 he came into my bed and wanted to rub my back. He then asked me if I masturbated. I asked him to leave and he did. At 19 we were together and I got really drunk and blacked out. That night he rapped me. The next day I was bleeding and he asked me if I was ok with last night. I told him no. I was afraid to tell my mom b/c I thought it was my fault that I got so drunk and blacked out. About a year later I did tell her and she did NOTHING about it. I have 2 sisters and they were young at the time and I was so scared for their safety. This man is sick! I have found out recently that he has done this to 3 other people. Anyway, b/c I had sisters I kept a relationship with my mom with some boundaries. It was very hard for me to see her and emotionally draining. I got married when I was 31 and she was at my wedding. Her husband was not invited. After that I had to children and she would come up to see them. the problem was, once I became a mother I just couldn't imagine not standing up for my boys and just brushing under the rug that someone rapped them. How could she do this to me. At the time I was sober for 6 years. After my second son was born I relapsed and I knew I had to do something. With the help of my therapist I gained the courage to tell my family (ggrandmom, aunts, uncles) what happened to me. My mom was furious. She told my sisters a bunch of lies and now they wont speak to me. I have not talked to my mom or sisters in 10 months. It is really hard but my relationship with my mom was just toxic. How could she choose him over me. She is aware of the other people he has done this to. One of the people is her sister. Another one he was fondeling her in the back seat of a car while my mom was driving. Needless to say, I am still working through this. I was brought up to take care of my mom and protest her so it is very hard for me to stand up for myself and know that I did nothing wrong. She has never apologized to me and does not think that she has done anything wrong. I just want to be free of all this and have a happy and healthy life with my boys and my husband.

Thanks so much for listening. I know its long and I am rambling....so I will shut up now

[Bluegrey]

Hello, Serenity Forever. Thank you for sharing your story. I don't have any answers for you but can see something of how horrible this has been for you. I'm just trying to come to grips with things myself, and I've found it's helpful using this site. Hope you do too.


Bluegrey

[serenityforever]

Originally Posted by Bluegrey

Hello, Serenity Forever. Thank you for sharing your story. I don't have any answers for you but can see something of how horrible this has been for you. I'm just trying to come to grips with things myself, and I've found it's helpful using this site. Hope you do too.


Bluegrey

Thank you so much Bluegrey!

[AmateurEverything!]

It just baffles me, as a mom, how they can do nothing about it! The only thing I can think of is that they are dealing with their own issues - which still doesn't excuse it! I mean as a parent your #1 job should be to protect your children! I'm so sorry this happened to you. I wish I had some helpful words for you but just wanted to let you know that you are important.