[Patagonia]

Two weeks ago I found myself in a very bad situation that lead to a sexual assault. I survived thankfully & my brain was able to take me away for awhile to spare me. I've also been able to separate my brain from the action so I can move on & not deal w/it right now. That's not the problem.
The main issue is the damage to my body that I need to hide from my spouse & family. First are black & blue marks that seem to be taking forever to fade. Any advice on how to speed this up?
Another terrible issue is my scalp. My hair was severely pulled for a long time & for days has fallen out in clumps. It's very scabby & sensitive. It's become paper thin & still keeps falling out. There are patches of red in my scalp that bleed easily. I'm very worried about the damage this has caused. When I wash my hair it makes me cry bec it's so terribly thin & fragile. I'm afraid of the damage that's been caused.
Does anyone have any advice please?
Thank you!

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[kaliope]

I am so sorry this has happened...just like the emotional trauma, physical trauma takes time to heal..you have suffered extreme damage and your body needs to take time to renew itself...I don't think there is a way to speed that up...take care of yourself.

[Sibelius5]

Why do you feel you need to hide this from your spouse and family? And have you reported it to authorities? The physical stuff will heal, but the emotional side needs attention. I am sorry to hear this happened to you.

[Patagonia]

No I'm not reporting it. That's a whole other issue. Thanks.

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[Sibelius5]

What about counseling, then? It's clear that you are blaming yourself, at least partially, for whatever happened. Doing that leaves a deeper scar than any physical act can. It isn't your fault, and you need help.

[cryingontheinside]

Im sorry to hear what you went through. Its your choice if you dont report it but if you do you could be saving someone else. People that do these kind of things dont stop especially if they think they can get away with it.
The bruises will go eventually. Your hair tho, maybe you should ask your doctor about that. You dont have to give your doctor much information about what happenef or who but they might be able to offer treatment for it and advise you whether it will repair its self. Try not to wash your hair and definately dont use shampoo or conditioner while your head is so sore and bleeding.
This was a very visious attack. The perpertrator sounds very violent and dangerous. Is there any one you could talk to about this?
Thinking of you.

[Patagonia]

Thank you to everyone that responded. I am working w/my T who I have told this about. She's been a huge help & has told me she'll keep my confidentiality.
I know I don't say anything for my H sake. This yr has been particularly hard on him. I've had 3 hospitalizations & one time I ran away from home & tried to o. d. I know that dealing w/yet another issue would push him over the edge when he already complains about "the amount of crap" our family is in the middle of. I'd like to make some of the issues disappear for him which I know I can't, but he thinks that me seeing my T twice a wk is a huge help. So hopefully he thinks we're over the proverbial hump now.

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[cryingontheinside]

Im really glad that you have a t to turn to. How are those sessions going? It makes me really sad that there is so much evil in this word.