[BluGangsta]

You know what I've come to realize? That most people don't care if you've been abused. Most people would rather you not spill the beans on **** you went through when you were little. Most people don't want to have to deal with the burden of something like that. That's why when you tell someone you were sexually abused all of your teenage years, they pretend like you never said it. They pretend like it didn't happen to you. They say there there and never bring it up again. They start to avoid you or they make remarks like its something you did. You provoked the person, you flirted with the person and made them react that way. As long as I live I will never tell another person in my life something so private about me because they really dont give a ****.

[kutt38]

Am sorry you feel this way. At times i too have felt the same. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone all such stories. But once i did, he reacted like its okay to happen like that or thats no big deal. That made me crazy. Now when such incidents continue to happen, the blame is on me. It hurts like hell. I know. Its difficult to find someone who truely cares for you. I dont intend to tell anyone my stories. Thats big mistake. People are selfish basically. No one is going to help u more than what u can

BluGangsta,
Sorry for having to deal with such issues on your own. I can imagine how that feels. I am fighting depression alone and can't even tell my own brothers or closest friends because they wouldn't understand the seriousness of the issue, not to mention the stigma associated with it.
We are here for you, we are here to help and support each other. I am not going to lie and say getting few supportive words from a total stranger online would be as helpful to getting them from people around you. But trust me, they do help a bit.
Please stay strong and feel free to share your thoughts. Nobody is judgmental here I believe.

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yes, I feel the same way. people want to know because they're nosy and curious, but then when they find out, it's too much for them to bear or understand so they don't want to know.

I think for people who haven't been abused, it is incredibly hard to even fathom what we have been through. almost incomprehensible.

[Mrs. Mania]

Originally Posted by BluGangsta

You know what I've come to realize? That most people don't care if you've been abused. Most people would rather you not spill the beans on **** you went through when you were little. Most people don't want to have to deal with the burden of something like that. That's why when you tell someone you were sexually abused all of your teenage years, they pretend like you never said it. They pretend like it didn't happen to you. They say there there and never bring it up again. They start to avoid you or they make remarks like its something you did. You provoked the person, you flirted with the person and made them react that way. As long as I live I will never tell another person in my life something so private about me because they really dont give a ****.

I suffer the exact same thing. My dad still doesn't believe my brother molested me and he can't understand why we can't come together for holidays- even though my brother admitted it and apologized to my mom!? Because of this supposed apology, my mom can't figure out why I won't come to functions if he's attending! When it came out during my teens...........UGLY

[ThisWayOut]

to all... I'm sorry the experiences of telling are so horrible. It's true, people don't know how to respond to things like that. Most untrained people in my experience don't know what to do with the information, so they either ignore it or turn it back on you.
I think if you can find a safe person to tell, it makes a wolrd of difference. When I first said something, I was yelled at (by family). Then I approached a school counselor, and was told to pray about it and give myself to god (equally traumatizing. it was a religious school, and I didnlt understand the concept of "mandated reporter" at the time enough to complain about their lack of action). Finally, I was able to tell a therapist, and she was the first person to respond with caring and support... Please don't give up on speaking out completely. Even if you call a hotline or something, there is support out there.... Don't wait as long as I did... Yes, it's hugely scary and invalidating to reach out and be blamed for it, but it can also be hugely validating to finally be heard.

[Dog on a Tree]

I'm sorry about the abuse you went through and about people's reactions. You have this forum though, so please use it for support. Those who say it's your own fault or avoid you, please ignore them. Sometimes people don't know how to react and therefore avoid the individual. But as for people saying it's your own fault, well just plain ignore them. You don't need stupid comments like that.

[Fuzzybear]