[Cat_Lover_58]

A while back I had posted about wanting to make amends to my sister. My mother is selling prescription pain killers to my sister's co-worker. I sent a letter to this girl back in December and since then my sister has not spoken to me. Now I'm penning an apology to my sister. I meant to hurt mom not my sister. Anyway...

My daughters came from my mom's house about an hour ago and tossed a bubble wrapped 5 x 7 envelope addressed to the girl who is buying the pills. Now I am livid...I wait a bit and then call my mother. I told her now she is using my daughters to mail her pills. I told her the envelope would be in her mailbox. You've never seen a woman get dressed so quick and come to my house to retrieve her pills. My daughters had just been there and they laughed at how quick she got over here. She was wearing some ratty old robe when they were there. I put her package by my front door and didn't even open it to her.

My daughters don't even like her and haven't for a good while. She makes them uncomfortable and she is just grossly inappropriate! I don't know what I'd do to her right now if I'd be standing right in front of her.

I haven't talked to her but a half dozen times over the last few years. She is beyond the most f-d up person I've ever known.

I still plan on sending my sister the letter and won't mention all this crap. I'm sure within a few hours she will have called my sister and be telling her all about what I've done and how stupid I'm being. Mom said, "Oh sorry, it was an oversight" (giving the package to my kids to mail)

Livid...getting ready for work now. Thanks for listening, Cat

[CopperStar]

If I were in your shoes I'd report your mother to the police. I would never let anyone **** with kids. I can forgive quite a lot, but not that, not ever. No exceptions.

[Cat_Lover_58]

Thanks Copper...I am going to go to the TWO pharmacies that she uses as soon as I toss in another load of clothes. Though my girls are over 18, yes, what she has done is unforgivable. One daughter just called me and said, "Mom, Grandma wants us to come over...and I don't want to..." I told my daughter she doesn't have to even return the call.

I hate that my mother puts my kids in this position. I need to calm down and then I'm going to talk to the pharmacies.

Thanks...Cat

[Cat_Lover_58]

I feel really good right now. Last night I talked with my mother over the phone. She blames me for turning the girls against her. I stood my ground and didn't yell or blame her. I told her that MY daughters are the MOST important thing in my life and that not for one more second is she to ask them to drop her pills in the mail. The girls and I talked some last night and they do not want to see my mom at all for now and I told them it's their choice. Again, mom blames me for that. I was called self-righteous and opinionated for starters...and I calmly responded that, again, the girls are my responsibility and I will do ANYTHING to protect them. She didn't like me sticking up for myself and not attacking her back. She said she doesn't know why I hate her so much. Gosh, I didn't fall for that one either. Could it be:

Constantly enabling the abusers in my life?
Constantly putting me down for my choices in life?
Constantly praising my siblings for the same things I was found guilty of?

She is NOT my issue anymore. Both my daughters and I are not seeing or speaking to her right now. That's okay. They seem relieved.

Later...Cat

[mimsies]

Making some great choices there and doing great standing up for yourself.
BRAVO!

[Cat_Lover_58]

Oh my...that emoji is hilarious. Thanks for the chuckle and the encouragement!