[Fuzzybear]

Do you think that the experience of having been abused .....(deleted this part ) as they (including me) struggle with the scars of abuse, and often, further abuse. I don't know why I've so often been a target for abusers . I was also abused in therapy which I paid for (thousands of pounds) I didn't recognise early enough that this was another Narcissistic abuser.. He was very "nice" to begin with..

I'm sure he helped some people, probably those he saw for a short time and who "got better" quickly (or those who he found "endearing" ) But I wasn't "good enough" so instead of referring me on to someone else or suggesting a break in therapy, he voiced his feelings of "callousness" on many occasions. I had said how my mother was callous towards me and he replied with "I feel callous towards you"

Thanks for screwing me up even further Mr Mean T
At least I now recognise abusers more quickly so in a sense you made me stronger

I'm plagued by so much physical crap that I feel "useless" and the cruel words he and others spat out at me are harder to fight off...

[Frankbtl]

Hi Fuzzy,

There's NEVER an excuse for abuse, some reasons maybe.............but never an excuse, nothing that makes it right for someone to abuse someone else. And I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that
You didn't deserve any of it, and none of it was your fault.
And now..........I know it can be really hard to live with sometimes...........but now............please try to surround yourself with people who understand, who care about you, who are there for you...........like us
That's what you deserve, that's what you've always deserved...........those people in the past who thought otherwise.............well they're no match to you.
Try to cherish who you are, hey?? Because we cherish who you are

Alison

[BLUEDOVE]

Quote: "You get the behaviour from people that you are willing
to put up with without protest: YOUR SILENCE IS CONSENT!"
Courage,
BLUEDOVE

[LettinG0]

Hey Fuzzy:

I can only imagine how horrible it must be to be abused by someone whom you are supposed to be able to trust and in some what of a power-position........You have my utmost empathy....

Please try to accept that YOU ....ARE....A.....WONDERFUL.....&......BEAUTIFUL ....BEAR....
and ignore those haunting voices of abuse.

[PianogirlPlays]

I too have had some bad experiences with counsellors who said things that made things worse. Learning when to leave is part of what I learned.