[TerriLynn]

If a sister who is one year older than her younger sister, around the ages of 12-14 or so, pressures the younger sister who did not want to, to allow her to lay on top of her and simulate sex along with the older sister getting physical pleasure from it.

Or is it just experimenting?

[CopperStar]

In cases of child x child sexual abuse, it is often the case that the perpetrator child was abused, him/herself, and is acting out abuse onto other children.

In my personal opinion, the child who receives the abuse is a victim of sexual abuse, yes they were abused.

However, I am typically hesitant to refer to a child (not older teen, but actual child) as a sexual abuser, just because in so many cases they were confused and hurt victims, themselves, and just instinctively acting out their own abuse as a coping mechanism. So I take a very lenient feeling towards them and don't wish to label them as a sexual predator.

However, from the perspective of the child who received the abuse, it was absolutely an abusive experience.

[starfruit504]

I would consider it experimental if both children were willing participants. If the young sister was forced to do this, it is sexual abuse. The younger child's boundaries weren't respected and she was violated.

I also feel strongly that the older child (by age 12) knew this was wrong. I know that young children acting out sex is often tied to being a victim themselves because small children shouldn't even know what sex is, but age 12 is pretty mature. I knew what sex was at 12. A lot of sexual experimentation begins around puberty, but at that point you also know not to force or bully someone to into sexual situations and you know what isn't appropriate to do with a sibling.

[CopperStar]

Originally Posted by starfruit504

I would consider it experimental if both children were willing participants. If the young sister was forced to do this, it is sexual abuse. The younger child's boundaries weren't respected and she was violated.

I also feel strongly that the older child (by age 12) knew this was wrong. I know that young children acting out sex is often tied to being a victim themselves because small children shouldn't even know what sex is, but age 12 is pretty mature. I knew what sex was at 12. A lot of sexual experimentation begins around puberty, but at that point you also know not to force or bully someone to into sexual situations and you know what isn't appropriate to do with a sibling.

I would agree that the older child knew what they were doing was wrong in the basic sense of forcing or pressuring someone else to do something they didn't want to do. But I still can't help but find it automatically a red flag when a child (even at age 12-14) has no concept of boundaries when it comes to sexual activity. Like something went wrong there.

[TerriLynn]

I think the older sister knew exactly what she was doing. And she has always bullied the younger sister. The younger sister was unwilling but gave in to the pressure and was especially unhappy when she hurt her.

[BlueEyez87]

I would say as the child is older it should be known that this isn't right; however if you grow up in an abusive household the child may think this is just normal behavior. I speak this from a place of experiencing this, to this day I'm still haunted with everything. They need to get help now before this cycle continues.

[TerriLynn]

I am not ready to say it out loud. But I am the younger sister, more than 30 years later. It still bothers me to this day. I still "feel" the pain she caused me and shame. She was a bully, still is.