[LesFleursDuMal]

Hi everyone...

I'm not just sure why I'm writing this. The thing is I've been trying to talk about sex with my therapist and I found it extremely hard. Basically, sex or even just been close with a man scares the hell out of me. I just can't do it. But it makes me very ashamed and I don't know how to explain that to my T. I told him I didn't want to have a boyfriend, I didn't want to have sex but the truth is I'm just scared. I'm 21 years old, I'm still a virgin and I'm so scared I'm gonna be like that for my life. Are there other people so scared of sex that they avoid relationships ? I just feel so alone...

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I am scared of it. And it can be very hard to talk about. Sex---and our fears.
Carol

[starfruit504]

I said the same thing because I was afraid of sex - I said I just didn't want to date. I said the thought of being sexual with anyone, even kissing, just sounded silly!

This issue is common enough and your T has probably heard about it before. There's nothing to be ashamed of, it doesn't make you weird. Just tell the T exactly what you told us - 'I said I didn't want a boyfriend, but really I'm afraid of having sex.'

[Big Mama]

I was afraid of having sex for a very long time. Even after I was mrried, it took several years to become comfortable with the idea.

You said you were having a hard time saying this to your T. Why not copy and print this thread and give that to him. I do that sometimes, it is easier to talk to people you cannot see. And if you already have the words written somewhere, like here, then why not use them.