Rape csa regression response psychology

WhatDayIsItAgain · Mar 03, 2016, 12:32 AM

Hello

I found the best post in the world and I wanted to share it.

Trauma psychology and reasons why rape/abuse/csa people are sometimes bonded and regressed through the use of cohersion/force/violence. I thought the writer explains certain well know reactions quite sensitively and at times, poetically beautifully.

This is about *why*

*why* did he well *do it*;((
and
*why* am I still so very ;(( it been *done*

I did not quote the entire post... just the conclusion part because I really loved the author's wording and compassionate inspirational delivery.

I skipped this.... (The first part is her personal story and is triggering. The second part is how the "abusebond" can affect our recovery and management of self care. )

This is the conclusion part from benedictus57 from a old 2010 post:

Thank you benedictus57 for your superAWESOMEcomfort I got from finally understanding some of the psychobabble blahblah.... ThankyouThankyouThankyou

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Rape torture is about reprogramming the victim to succumb to an alternative exegesis of the world, proffered by the abuser. It is an act of deep, indelible, traumatic indoctrination. Men and women afflicted by rape often swallow whole and assimilates the torturer's negative view of him or her and often, as a result, is rendered suicidal, self-destructive, or self-defeating.

Thus, rape torture has no cut-off date. The sounds, the voices, the smells, the sensations reverberate long after the episode has ended – both in nightmares and in waking moments. The victim's ability to trust other people – i.e., to assume that their motives are at least rational, if not necessarily benign – has been irrevocably undermined. Social institutions are perceived as precariously poised on the verge of an ominous twilight zone. Nothing is either safe, or credible anymore.

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"The purpose of all coercive techniques is to induce psychological regression in the subject by bringing a superior outside force to bear on the rape sufferers will to resist. Regression is basically a loss of autonomy, a reversion to an earlier behavioral level. As the subject regresses, his or her learned personality traits fall away in reverse chronological order. Rape victims begin to lose their capacity to carry out the highest creative activities, to deal with complex situations, or to cope with stressful interpersonal relationships or repeated frustrations."

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Language cannot communicate such an intensely private experience as pain.

("Pain is also unsharable in that it is resistant to language... All our interior states of consciousness: emotional, perceptual, cognitive and somatic can be described as having an object in the external world... This affirms our capacity to move beyond the boundaries of our body into the external, sharable world. This is the space in which we interact and communicate with our environment. But when we explore the interior state of physical pain we find that there is no object 'out there' – no external, referential content. Pain is not of, or for, anything. Pain is. And it draws us away from the space of interaction, the sharable world, inwards. It draws us into the boundaries of our body.")

Bystanders resent those victimized by rape because it makes them feel guilty and ashamed for having done nothing to prevent the atrocity. Rape victims threaten their sense of security and their much-needed belief in predictability, justice, and rule of law. Those victimized by rape, on their part, do not believe that it is possible to effectively communicate to "outsiders" what they have been through.
"It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The rape victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The rape victim demands action, engagement, and remembering."

But, more often, continued attempts to repress fearful memories result in psychosomatic illnesses (conversion). The rape victim wishes to forget the torture, to avoid re-experiencing the often life threatening abuse and to shield his or her human environment from the horrors. In conjunction with the victim's pervasive distrust, this is frequently interpreted as hyper vigilance, or even paranoia. It ("seems") that female and male victims can't win. For many Victims of Rape, Torture is forever. "

I sincerely agree!