[Anouk]

I have lived with a lot of abuse in my life.

I just wonder what it is about me that makes people see me as a target and turn on me or accuse me of heinous things that they then think I need to be outed for or punished for.

It has just happened again, where I was bullied by someone who appears all sweetness and light to other people and then goes out of her way to abuse me. She tries to draw other people into things and even when the back off and opt out of it, continues to do things.

I have had a whole week of this with her. I have tried to walk away. I have tried to discuss is with her -- only for her to make our conversations public with 8 other people, who werent involved in the first place.

I was having to work with her -- but I have resigned today because I cant handle any more.

I just dont know what to do any more

[cryingontheinside]

You need to speak to your boss and revolk your resignation. Tell the boss everything that's been going on. Refuse to talk or listen to this person who is being abusive . ask to be put on separate shifts if that is possible. Be strong. Do not let this person mess up your job or your happiness. I am sorry that you have been through this. Please don't let her win. Take your power back

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[nicoleflynn]

People don't see others as targets, it is just that abuse is rampant!

[Open Eyes]

It's not just "you" there are a lot of people out there that have bad ways of dealing with others and often have problems that have nothing to do with you. I don't think one can live their life without experiencing some of these toxic type individuals, so you are not alone.

[sub-dural]

I have these same thoughts, especially when very depressed. These thoughts tend to spiral into the "what does it matter" or "it's okay" or "nothing matters" sort of thought stream that attempts to rationalize why the chronic abuse / trauma some of us experience our entire lives. Sorry for everyone who has to go about feeling this way.

(((hugs)))

[Anouk]

Thank you all so much for your advice, hugs and support.

It means a lot.

I dont think I will revoke my resignation. I will concentrate on finding a much better and safer workplace. I think I am better out of there. I have been dreading to go to work each day for so long there, that I need to start fresh somewhere else.

Thanks too for your thoughts sub-dural - I think that in the past few days I have been getting into those thoughts.

I am trying to think that the person whom has been behaving so badly is really a nobody and that is why she has to go around bullying other people.

[PumpkinPieHead]

Saw a meme floating around facebook: If you're the victime of another person's smallness, bitterness, and hatred, it could be worse. You could be them.

Be strong love

[Jan1212]

It happened to me my friend. It happened to another coworker of mine where they ganged up on her and physically hit her feet with a mop.

I am interested in going to into law and public safety I can branch off of my career . We need to make it aware of the abuse and toxic workers need to be reprimanded . Nothing is being done. People continue to single people out.

Those people have issues themselves that they are not coping well with. Let them continue I believe in karma. They are going to continue, but one day they will realize it's been holding them back years and years of untreated issues.

Think about it. Either you'll go to the similar place, or find something so much better. But if you stay, it'll be negative toxic place where people continue let them act out like that

please DO NOT quote ANY SELECTION of my post. thank you. have a good day.

[Anouk]

Thanks Jan1212. I agree with your thoughts and I am trying to say to myself that karma will catch up with this person.

I have stuck by my decision to resign and will definitely be looking for a better workplace