[PianogirlPlays]

Feeling hurt and hurting inside myself from feeling angry mainly at my husband's choices and behaviors and how I feel about them..I hate when he seems unthinking , unknowing and does foolish things like disappearing when all he had to do was wait five minutes until I was through weighing in at weight watchers. Or acting like someone who has lost his head ! I am sorry but the list goes on...and I wish I didn't have a list!

[TerriLynn]

Is this a new behavior or has he always been this way?

[PianogirlPlays]

Originally Posted by TerriLynn

Is this a new behavior or has he always been this way?

I have struggled for a long time! We are having conversations that we have had for years! It is truly affecting my health. I try to communicate but it is hard for him to remember even though it is important. I wrote things down today but he keeps doing the same stuff over and over!

[TerriLynn]

Have you guys tried reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? Try getting the audio book and listening to it together in the car while driving somewhere. Sometimes it just a matter of not understanding how to communicate with each other, and sometimes we just have to make a decision not to get so upset about silly things each other does.

There are things my husband does, that I have asked him for 10 years not to do. In the beginning, they were really important to me, and I just thought they were so simple for him to do!! Like not using MY towel when he gets out of the shower, or closing the shower curtain when he gets out so that it can dry and not get all moldy! But, it just isn't that important to him, no matter how important it is to me. But, even more important to me than my towel or shower curtain, is having a loving relationship with him, and then the towel just doesn't seem that important. I am sure there are things he feels the same way about that he has to put aside.

Hope it gets better.