[survivor_girl]

Hello Everyone,

I am a survivor of domestic violence. I was in the relationship for 1 and 1/2 years and people often ask me why the hell I stayed if it was so bad. I'm tired of hearing that and feel so alone.

[CANDC]

Hi there survivor_girl. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry that people do not understand your situation and how many challenges a victim of abuse faces. No one can know what you were going through and the pressures you were under. In abusive situations, sometimes staying can be a survival technique. I certainly is up to no one else to judge.

I find sharing things online people are more accepting because most everyone here has gone through challenging situations.

Perhaps these articles may be of interest. https://psychcentral.com/lib/why-do-...-victims-stay/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/why-wom...ntrolling-men/

[Skeezyks]

Hello survivor_girl: to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

[nicoleflynn]

I stayed for 31 years......so glad you go t out...."When you blame me, you shame me and keep me silent." So horrible that people who don't understand (and don't educate themselves) Further abuse...the abused.

[survivor_girl]

so many people think I'm making this up because I'm in a wheelchair and my abuser was blind. Or they get tired of me talking about it.

[Onward2wards]

Some people seem to assume that in an equivalent situation, they would have it all figured out. Riiiiight.