[JennaWadde99]

when I had just turned 15,I remember my Dad telling me that he wanted to buy me clothes so he was going to take my measurements with a tape. So he bought a pen ,pad and measure tape.I didn't think anything out of it.I don't remember what lead to this but I now get a vivid flash back of me being topless with just an underwear on.At some point he squeezed my breast and put his hand in my underwear to feel the top of my vagina. I think this incident of him undressing me to take measurement of the clothes he supporsedly wanted to buy happened few times until one day he approached me me again to take my measurements but he still hadn't bought the clothes so I told him forget it..but he still demanded I get undress even though I was clearly annoyed ..at that incident,he tried taking my underwear off but I pulled his hands away. I don't recall this happening again because I was obviously upset.Needlessly to say he never bought the clothes.

Another incident was when he told me thathe wanted to see if my eczema on my back was getting worse.I said no it's fine .He got angry and said "YOUR MOM ISN'T HERE I'M THE ONE WHO CHECK THESE THINGS"(My mom was back in Africa at that time)My parents got divorced when we were little and my dad has remarried. He demanded I undress down to underwear and lay on the bed to check my eczema. nothing happened after that.

Another incident was when I was sitting alone in on the bed reading .Then he came in and sat close to me without saying a word.My step sister who was 6 at that time followed him and stood in front of the door.He immediately got up and left my room,only to return few minutes later when my step sister left.As soon as he came back my step sister followed him again.At that point he gave up and left me alone.

The final incident was when he was heading for a shower and he knocked on my door,asked me to rub his back. I said No and told him he should ask his wife to do that not me.He tried to convince me that wasn't a big deal but I stood my ground.I don't remember anything that happened after these incidents or the dates ..other than these vivid flash backs of this incidents.

I no longer live at home and these memories I repressed are starting to resurface.I'm starting to harbor resentment and strong hatred towards my fatherI'm thinking to cut him off out of my life .would that be wrong of me?I also book an appointment to see a therapist. Just looking for opinions.

[Skeezyks]

Hello JennaWadde99: I'm sorry you had these distressing experiences. I don't think it would be appropriate for me to offer an opinion with regard to what you experienced. But I'm glad to read you will be seeing a therapist. Having the opportunity to sort this out, over time, with a skilled professional is the way to go. Just keep in mind that it takes time to work through difficult experiences such as you had. And it can take some time to find the therapist that's right for you. So if the first therapist you see doesn't seem to be working out, keep looking.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

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[TaubTaube]

Only you can really gage that, but at the VERY least your father was VERY inappropriate and VERY disrespectful of boundaries.

If your father can't respect boundaries and you don't feel safe with him, it is in your right to sever ties if you want.