[TishaBuv]

Monsters are not born, they are created.

With the exception of someone like Jeffrey Dahmer, who holds people by force doing unspeakable things, generally monsters are fed and allowed to flourish.

I let my whole family have a piece of my mind for not defending me and allowing my mother to be a monster. Mom couldn't have abused if the witnesses called her on her behavior.

My sister said she did not speak up because 'you can't bargain with crazy' and she didn't want to be abused herself. Not acceptable to me!

So now, with PTSD, I am punch drunk.

This time, Mom is not getting away with the abuse! Only because I have leverage, do I even have anything to withhold that is of consequence to her.

My message is: Speak up and protect the abused. Demand back up when being abused.

[gmts]

Sorry to hear. Have you ever considered self defence class ? Has helped me a lot

[campervanman]

Hi TishaBuv.

As gmts suggests` self defence classes would be a good motivator and also keep you healthy!

I joined a martial arts` group years` ago and I loved it! Now I am a Black-Belt in Judo and also I have done one to one restraints and holding technics`........お気をつけて......KIWOTSUKETE

[TishaBuv]

Mom is 82 and weighs 100 pounds. Yet she is more dangerous than Jackie Chan!

[Quarter life]

Hostile angry retribution may feel good in the moment...but in my opinion the best way to get back at a abuser is to ignore them out of existence. Validating that they have hurt you is only feeding the monster.

I was given the opportunity to provide a 'Victim Impact Statement' at the Court Sentencing of my abusers, But I made the choice to deprive them of that...I went to lunch with my dear friend instead. My Abusers don't get to know what is in my mind, my thoughts belong only to me, and I refuse to allow them to have them.

[TishaBuv]

https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhaust...ycle-of-abuse/

The cycle of abuse is my h and me. The Narcissistic cycle is my mother and me.

She's definitely the narcissist, but I played my part in power struggles with her.

Husband and I have the cycle of abuse as the only way we have sex. We are both to blame.

I am damaged goods. Just hoping to be a healthy, whole person in and of and by myself.

[Charljwl]

I understand. My father was a monster and my mother wouldn't protect me. She says that if she tried to stop him, it made him be worse. I don't know. She never tried. We were trapped in a 2 bedroom mobile home with a man who was so angry and hate filled. I know he was severely abused as a child and he tried to get better, but he wasn't a good father. I am very sick now.