[Mommy1010101]

About a week ago my daughter (4) told me our roomates son (8) " pulled down his pants and underwear and her pants and underwear and put his pee pee on her pee pee" I asked for more information and was told she told him to stop and that it hurt. I asked her when it happened and she told me "one day when you went to work"

The kid admitted to putting his penis on her vagina but with clothes on. My daughter is only four and has not been exposed to this stuff. If she was right about some off it then she was right about the rest.

However, I don't know what to do. I'm heart broken and scared. I was sexually abused in my teens and it scarred me and effected my life so horribly.

What do I do?

[nicoleflynn]

I would talk to the parents of that boy, and if they argue or deny, talk to the boy yourself. Talkto your daughter and make sure she understands it wasn't her fault, and that no one is supposed to touch her. Tell her to yell "no'! if anyone tries to touch her. Who takes care of your daughter when you go to work? Make sure they know what happened and that they keep an eye on that boy. I assume you discussed it with your roommate's parent(s). Sadly, we have to teach our children at a young age, what is not appropriate.

[TishaBuv]

I'd have no more babysitting with that boy. Whoever was watching them, wasn't keeping a close eye on them either.

I'm not sure if an 8 year old can get erect. I think I'd call my pediatrician and ask what to do.

I wouldn't make an issue out of it for fear it would further reinforce trauma in my daughter. Maybe she will just forget about it.

I'm not sure about continuing to live with your roommate and his son.

I think I'd get myself and my daughter out of that situation immediately.

[kaleidoscopeheart]

I agree with most of what was said above. I would definitely make sure your daughter knows you believe her and that this was not acceptable behavior and that she is supported. She knows something was wrong with the situation, that's why she came to you. Please don't be afraid to find age appropriate help for her.

Your roommate's son molested your daughter? Tell your landlord. File a police report. Break the lease and move out, if you can afford to. Or tell your roommate he/she has to move out.