[TishaBuv]

I shipped her a Mother's Day gift basket. I don't have the heart to be as big a B as she is. Included a card that simply said "Happy Mother's Day" . It'll say it's from me. Even if we never speak again, I'll send her a shytty gift basket every holiday.

I could never do that for my mother. She's such a horrible, horrible person. I have no respect for her anymore, and I have no guilt in not wishing her a Happy Mothers Day. She doesn't deserve that kind of special recognition for being a good mother from a daughter she's emotionally and psychologically continued to abuse for over 40 years.

[TishaBuv]

My mom wasn't all bad. We had a lot of great times. Even though she was abusive, she was a really good mom, too.

I'm so sad it's ended this way.

I'm so sad I meant so little to all of them. I've been a great person in this family. That's the saddest part. Good, bad, it didn't matter. One act of self esteem and I was done.

I think it shows I have class to send her a gift. I guess I'm hoping she'll soften up from it and call and apologize. Wishful thinking!

[TishaBuv]

Fantasy:

My aunt will call and say, "oh, T, I'm so sorry to have not called you and shown compassion after witnessing your mother go Exorcist on you!"

And my sisters will call and say, "Oh, T, I'm so sorry I didn't have your back and tell our manipulative, viscous mother to apologize to you or we won't speak to her again, either."

And my dad will call and say, "Oh, T, I know what you've been put through by the same demon who abuses me 24/7, and I finally decided to grow a pair and tell her to cut it out or I'll leave her!"

The one thing I've learned from my mother is that she will never change. Believe me, I gave her plenty of chances to stop being abusive and to respect me and the boundaries I put up. But she's consistently been abusive to me over the years, never apologizing for it either. Berating me. Shaming me. Sabotaging me. Lying to me. Manipulating me. She is not the kind of woman who deserves a "Happy Mother's Day" card.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by cielpur

The one thing I've learned from my mother is that she will never change. Believe me, I gave her plenty of chances too stop being abusive and to respect me and the boundaries I put up. But she's consistently been abusive to me over the years, never apologizing for it either. Berating me. Shaming me. Sabotaging me. Lying to me. Manipulating me. She is not the kind of woman who deserves a "Happy Mother's Day" card.

I'm so sorry for you to have suffered that.

Did you have any good times with her?

In short: no. I did not have any good times with her. She never should have had children. She's incapable of empathy and showing her children emotional support. She never apologizes for her bad behavior, and likes to play the perpetual victim. My father enabled her terrible behavior and had he divorced her before his cancer killed him, I think he would have remarried and I think he'd have been a lot happier.