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I have spoke to several people. Only one person got it. Actually understood...
It is not a choice that a victim makes on whether to stay or not to stay - its all about manipulation and brainwashing. Why do so many people blame the victim? When I was being abused - for years all I heard was
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I get so angry seeing or hearing even implied messages of it. I don't get it. How can people truly think it's a choice? Do they sincerely think we wake up and think "yea, I like being treated like crap, I'm gonna stay."? What utter nonsense! Sorry but I been severely triggered most the day, it helped a bit to speak to the one person- but I really want more to understand, you know?
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I am so sorry you have had to go thru that as well.
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I understand.
People have asked me why I stay with my abusive parents rather than leave the household where my brothers still also reside. They don't understand that breaking the cultural taboo in my Asian country will cause the entire, large, extended family to invalidate me, reject me, blame me, shame me. Because the estrangement from everyone in my extended and immediate family will hurt more to me. So I stay and get told I should stop crying about it. People don't understand CHOICELESS CHOICE like what you've described. |
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Here - this shows some dynamics of it. Emotional Abuse And Brainwashing Have you checked to see if there are any abuse shelters in your area? They will help you with finances and other things once you are there...
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Crypts_Of_The_Mind-
Sorry if I triggered you today. Yes, I do understand that finances and cultural expectations sometimes play a large role in the choices we are forced to make. ![]() I'm glad that you are beginning to escape. Hopefully, as time goes by, insensitive people like me will be less triggering for you. |
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It upsets me, too.
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I came away from sexual assualt and the reaction to it feeling so confused and guilty, thinking it was my fault.
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The only person who was sympathetic was someone who also was hurt that way. Why does it take a personal experience before people understand? It should not be so difficult, but apparently it is. ![]() |
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I really can't think how right now, but one of the things I would love to do is help raise awareness about the kind of misinformed thinking that is obviously out there. I mean, in an advocacy and activism way, not just speaking up at random. It feels personal to me, because I have had very close friends over the years who are survivors - and for some reason I have always felt profound upset that abuse even exists anyway.
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I guess I'm one of those people that don't fully understand why people stay with abusers and I'm sorry if I might of triggered you somewhere.
I don't get it in part because I was lucky due to the fact that my abusive mother died which allowed me to get away but even before then, I always have had an aggressive personality and extreme anger issues to where I would have physically attacked somebody for getting in my way and I only stayed with her because I couldn't support myself financially so that's that. I guess it makes me angry when people treat somebody so poorly that they feel that way. It almost makes me want to become a masked vigilante that goes after abusers and beats them into a bloody pulp and locks them up in dungeons so they can't hurt the victim anymore because it seems like it takes the abuser's death or imprisonment for the victim to truly be free. So yeah, I'm sorry if I don't fully understand ![]() |
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I will admit, this very thing happened to a former of friend of mine which makes me angry just thinking about it. The more I think on this topic, the more I grow to believe that it should be legal for a victim to murder one's abuser. Anybody who is such a ****** person that they would be this mean to somebody deserves death in my honest opinion. Anyways, I will stop now. Message me if you would like ![]() |
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