[Depressed-Fiance]

Not that it matters anymore but I'd like to know either way if this is controlling behaviour (which I think it is), anyway:

I liked to play free online games in my spare time and wasn't hurting or upsetting anybody (except my crazy ex fiance.) She would ask how long and have many games I had been playing and when I told her she would give me a look and tone in her voice that seemed 'disapproving to me.

This in turn made me feel a bit anxious around her because I felt that she didn't like me playing these harmless games online.

What do we think fellow PC posters?

It certainly sounds like she didn't approve of how you spent your time. But controlling, to me, would be saying that you are forbidden from playing these games rather than just expressing disapproval.

My main concern here is how you seem to be stuck on this woman's past actions rather than moving forward with your life.

[Depressed-Fiance]

I understand what you mean when you compare both disapproving of something and flat out saying you are forbidden from doing something.

But for me, the fact that she has made a point of whinging about this has made me feel a bit upset and annoyed and that is why I considered her points as abuse.

It's hard to move on from her when her actions over me were so disruptive and callous but as they say, time is a healer.

[it'sgrowtime]

it seems like she was concerned about it. Do you know why?

[Depressed-Fiance]

Originally Posted by it'sgrowtime

it seems like she was concerned about it. Do you know why?

I think she was concerned about it because she claimed that 'I would get addicted' to these online games.

[it'sgrowtime]

I think it can be beneficial to look out for one another, additionally we each need to protect ourselves and be our own person.

Addiction could be a true concern, and worth raising an eyebrow over. But if you have no addictive tendencies, then was she using that as an excuse for some other reason? It really only matters if you think there is some lesson to learn. If you are trying to convince yourself you made the right choice about her, and are venting delayed anger, you probably will keep having things like this pop into your mind.

Break ups are rough