[atem]

Im 19 years old and I've been feeling that I have been abused for a really long time for some reason but I couldn't figure out why. I was watching a Dr.Phil show today and all of a sudden these memories came rushing back to me. I guess I suppressed them all these years because I never talked about it with anyone so I kind of forgot. Now that Im older and more aware these memories are really bothering me because I feel like it was abuse.

One time when I was 7 or 8 I went to church with my best friend at the time and her family. Afterwards we went back to one f her family's house. Her dad called me in the basement and obviously I went thinking nothing. HE began to basically ask me if I liked him. asking if I thought he was nice etc. While he was talking to me he was rubbing my arms. Then he grabbed my arms and tongue kissed me for a really long time but I was just frozen and I didn't know what was going on. I was only 7 years old and his daughters friend. I don't know why he would do that.

The second memory is of my dad. Im not really sure if tis is considered abuse but it might be. My dad was a very bad alcoholic but we was always so nice to me. We used to lay on the couch together and cuddle until grade 6. But while we cuddle I remember he would rub my butt and them eventually slip his hands under my pants and continue touching it. He did that a lot I don't know if this was a a form of molestation. I didn't think any thing of it because he was my father.

Now that I'm older I'm more conscious and aware and I think these events may have been wrong and a form of abuse I'm not sure but it really bothering me. Was I abused? or am I exaggerating. I don't know what to think. I pushed these memories so far back in my head now that I think of them it disgusts me and makes me cry. What happened to me?

[Travelinglady]

Hello, atem, and welcome to Psych Central! To my way of thinking, yes, you were sexually abused--in that someone(s) touched you inappropriately, I'm sure to meet their own sexual needs. I suggest you talk to a counselor about it, so the effects will lessen. You'll be okay--but I think you have rightly have a grievance. Shame on them. Remember that what they did was not your fault. Okay?

(I am not a therapist or a professional, remember.)

[lal81]

Both of these counts are sexual abuse. It is only natural to feel bad about these things. I know how you feel, I've been there. Don't think for one second that you are overreacting about these things. I do not believe that I would confront either person, for the simple fact that this was so long ago. However, you do need to talk to somebody. You can still report this if you want. You have to be the one to make this decision. If you do report it or even confront them, stay strong and do not let them intimidate you.
Stay strong and know that you are never alone!