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Fuzzybear · Sep 20, 2007, 11:22 AM

That "lucy" was endearing but that there was an "older girl" who was rude and nasty. And he often told me things I had said that I was sure I hadn't said. idk if this is dissociation or if the T needed further therapy.
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He also denied saying things that I was sure he had said. Delete this post if needed. he said

nothemama8 · Sep 20, 2007, 11:30 AM

perhaps " the older girl " is there to help when your feeling powerless, she may be helpful in bad times

Fuzzybear · Sep 20, 2007, 12:06 PM

Also he said sometimes I relate as a child and sometimes as an adolescent SIGH

And he wondered whether if I had a baby I would be able to keep in the adult me or even keep the adult me...... in effect he put me off having a baby but that wasn't the only reason.

SIGH
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Fuzzybear · Sep 20, 2007, 12:24 PM

I wish I hadn't posted this now. I can't go back to this T as he denies most things. Apparently I can't go to anyone in the same clinic either which seems crazy as the therapy ended on "good" terms. I even saw him a couple of times recently (comparatively) but he still wasn't particularly supportive. I suspect he doesn't want the "truth" to come out about how mean he was sometimes. And I suppose its "bad" to say bad things about him, its me who is "bad". YAWN.

He also said how he sent some of his patients "back to their GPs" and how that was sad. So I suppose my therapy with him was "successful" compared to that. I think he went in over his head with me and several other patients and then threw out a few extra labels......Somehow it seems safer to continue "blaming" him than to talk about "me" whoever that is.

When I tried to tell the psychiatrist how he had hurt me, the pdoc, not surprisingly (?) supported the T, as they had worked together.

Fuzzybear · Sep 20, 2007, 05:51 PM

Please consider this thread deleted.

Sep 20, 2007, 07:03 PM

I hope this won't be deleted Fuzzy. he said

but if it must, if that is best for you then ......

It's hard to say whether it was dissociation or the therapist was delusional-- perhaps? he said

What really matters is how you feel about you and how you cope with things.

I've had invalidating T.s also-- it hurt so much as we try to reach out to someone that is supposed to be helpful and then they hurt us too. he said

I was told I was thinking irrationally--- irrational?!! he said

That T. didn't put herself in MY place and see how I was in a circle of abuse for years........ sure I was defensive-- she would have been too in my place... he said

so many times she accused me of being this or that-- it sure hurt a lot-- I quit after trying hard for 5 months with her....

I decided that there are people that think they help when they don't..... that's just the way it is..... they don't know any better-- even though they should. he said

I left that behind me and have tried to not let it get me too upset.

I talked to the T. I just recently had about the situation with that other T. and he didn't voice any support for me.... think maybe they don't like to do that, since they weren't there and only have one side of the story to go on..... think it's probably a tough spot for them to be in.

Fuzzy-- sorry for your struggles. I hope you find a good therapist and can work on healing.

mandy ps... you very much belong here.