[BlueEyez87]

So I was SA when I was younger and I didn't want to tell my mom about anything that happened to me because I knew she would choose his side over mine. During that time though I may have played the cards in my favor with the abuser so that I could get the things I wanted as a teenager. When the truth finally came out, my mother told everyone that what I did was blackmail and while I know that is true, I'm still not sure it was wrong? I don't really know to be honest and was just wondering if anyone else ever did this? I know I'm a screwed up person but I felt like this gave me some kind of control does that even make sense?

[Amyjay]

I think it was normal from what you've said As children we take power whenever we can get it especially when we are actually power less. I think it is a normal human survival instinct kind of thing to get what you can when you are actually trapped We took what we could from our abusers when we could Who wouldn't steal food when they were starving

[carrie_ann]

hi BlueEyez87, as you said it gave you some kind of control and for children going through (or having gone through) SA i'd say that's normal, you shouldn't beat yourself up over it ok?