[East17]

I know if a person wants to recover from something traumatic (ie abuse), they need to be open about it and work through it with a therapist.... But the thing that has always held me back from completely disclosing is whether or not it would be a requirement on the part of the therapist to report it to the authorities (in UK)...?

This isn't in any way to protect or shield a perpetrator, but to safeguard myself.

I have so far tried talking about it with 2 different therapists and also a specialist counsellor from RASA... I've got to a certain point but couldn't get any further with any of them.

I really need to just offload and work through all the crap going round in my head, knowing that it won't go any further - but I don't have enough trust in anybody to be able to do that.

Any ideas?

[topherlee75]

Don't use names.

[QueenCopper]

I agree don't use names. I know my therapist told me she would report the abuse only if it was still ongoing. If it u s past abuse then there is nothing she can do. I did not use names at first. Good luck!

[Amyjay]

I too am scared of disclosure. So badly want to tell and get help but so terrified of telling too much and having t call the authorities. I don't know what to do.

[sugarbeeMe]

Originally Posted by Amyjay

I too am scared of disclosure. So badly want to tell and get help but so terrified of telling too much and having t call the authorities. I don't know what to do.

Write it out first? So you don't say too much. Write out exactly as you want it, then read it to your therapist? Best of luck.

[Luminar12010]

no in the uk the decision lies with you, there is no reporting to anyone else if you disclose

[Fuzzybear]

[QueenCopper]

You can always write it out in a story as if it is someone else. You could also use fake names as you tell what happened. After a year I finally talk about details but there is a space on the ceiling that I look at or I color while talking. Of course I cry after the session but I am trying to get out. Good luck! I really hope you find a way to get it out.

[systemfailure]

I'm in a bit of a pickle too, its not that I'm scared of anyone getting in trouble, I just feel uncomfortable saying things, I think sometimes because you hold something to yourself for so long, its like you become loyal to the secret (crazy I know) I have typed mine up and once I feel I am speaking to the right person (trust issues) I will give it to them. I think I need a woman to talk to, because I'n not sure men are cut out to know how women can feel and think.