[grey_aj]

I haven't been on this site in a while but I have a question and I'm not sure if this is a good place to ask it but I figured I'd give it a try.

A close friend of mine is a survivor of sexual assault. The incident occurred a few years ago before we met and she hasn't talked very in depth about it, only that it happened--I think she's told hardly anyone even that--and based on other things she's said it's clear that it contributed to her severe depression, anxiety she's still dealing with, etc.

I want to ask how she's doing with all the headlines about Harvey Weinstein in the news and "Me too" stuff on social media, and my question is, would this be insensitive of me? I genuinely want to know how she's doing but I could also see how asking such a thing may not be my place and could be uncomfortable... also, we've never talked about this beyond her stating that it happened and ofc I did not pursue the topic further. Again, the two of us are close so I'm not worried about it being weird, just want to know if it's even in my place to ask.

Any advice appreciated, thanks.

- AJ

[nicoleflynn]

I think asking her would be a positive thing; knowing that you care....and you could ask her if she would like to talk about it; is she in therapy? You could suggest that; trauma doesn't go away on its own, and it continues to affect a person.

[magicalprince]

I don't really know. Personally I think it's best to meet other people where they're at. Show the genuine kindness and caring for her that you are feeling but I don't think there's any need to make it about the news specifically, without really knowing how that might feel to her.