[Fredje]

Greetings fellow forummembers,

I feel partly ashamed for what harm or frustration I have caused people on this forum. As a victim of all sorts of abuse by my ex-girlfriend I had a hard time coping with these feelings that, how close to the truth it is, a man is not allowed to feel and cannot find help to cope with. An abused man seems to have a little part in this society and it's even worse in America.

I've been watching The Red Pill and it inspired me to maybe start an own business helping men who have been abused by their partner. But that is just an idea right now.

I'm still coping, 2 years after we broke up, with trust issues and it has been causing problems with the current woman I am seeing. I cannot trust her the way I used to trust people and everything she does I think she does it to screw me over. She says she doesn't mind if I don't pick her up from the trainstation, but in the back of my mind all I can think about is how angry she will be when I don't pick her up. I did it once and she wasn't angry at all.

I cannot seem to forget about my ex and everything she has done to me. Last week I was in the room at my friends place where she ripped out pages from a book we wrote in together. The necklace I gave her still hangs there on the wall and so does the cards. It's like she deliberatly tore out everything that reminded her of me, except for those things on her bedroom wall.

I haven't seen her since that moment, but I do want her to see me to see how amazing I am doing. Which ofcourse is a lie since I'm still busy with her. She leads my friend on who she works for once a month to make sure that she has a place to go to when her current boyfriend breaks up with her. It tears my heart out to see how she keeps abusing and using people and no one is doing anything

I just wanted to write this all down and tell some of you I am fine. The feelings about stalking her, taking her back, or following her has subsided. I want to thank those who were there 2 years ago to help me.

[reb569]

I wasn't on here two years ago, so I'm not overly familiar with any issues you had on here. I just want to say that I'm glad you seem to be doing better.

I can understand how past abuses can impact a current relationship. I've been there, technically I probably still am there, but it definitely does get better over time.

I would just highly recommend that you discuss this with your current girlfriend, if you haven't already. Together, you should be able to move on and put this in the past.

Best of Luck!