[Verity81]

Is it abuse if he and his family mainly treat me badly when I have a depressive episode? The rest of the time if I’m not sick I’m treated well as long as, I’m doing what they approve of. Currently and previously whilst I’ve been in hospital for depression he shouts at me, ignores me, doesn’t visit unless drs pressure him to go to meetings, tells me I’m selfish, I’m to blame, I’m crazy, tells me I have to apologise to his whole family for going into hospital, I have to beg and grovel so he doesn’t chuck me out and I end up homeless, his mother has told me I’m weak for going back on meds and she wrote me a letter telling me what an awful person I was after the last time I came out of hospital, he had also in an argument pushed me on the stairs, grabbing my arms so hard I had bruises for days ( I admit we were arguing at the time) this time he isn’t even visiting his son whilst we are on the mother and baby unit, took him two days to bother to bring him babygrows, said he doesn’t know if he’ll visit. I’m so afraid of what will happen when they send me home, I don’t feel safe and I think he’ll take the baby off me

[Vaporeon]

Yes, this is definitely abusive behavior. Can you talk to a social worker or someone else who can help you get out of your situation? You and your baby deserve to be safe.

[Carmina]

This is against the law in the UK, report it and get some support.