[Toller]

Hi, Can't give out too much info but Social Work are involved with my very young daughter currently in hospital. I have strongly told them that I do not want her to be placed in the house she was attacked. Though Social Work deny there was an attack simply stating "We don't know what happened" despite her having bruises from head to toe, placed on a life support and doctors finding old bruises and describing as non-accidental. I told them it would be too traumatic for her but they insist on placing her there. Also they say it's safe because the "bad man" isn't there any more. They've lied to me, misinformed me and twisted everything around. In fact just thinking about it they have contradicted themselves right there, why refer to a "bad man" if they are denying any kind of attack? They have also written a report designed to trash me only because I am disagreeing with them, trying to protect my daughter and express her wishes. None of them have listened to her. She has limited vocabulary but from waking up from a medicaly induced coma she expressed precisely not wanting to go back to that place and has done so extensively. She is unable to tell us what happened to her but I am very sure she has memories and flashbacks. The Social work told me that almost anything could trigger her and we don't know what it could be. I'm sure as hell putting her in the place that it happened will do it. Are these guys idiots? I am incredibly frustrated with them.

[Erti]

I would get a Lawyer.

Yes, get a lawyer, and as much support around you as possible. It doesn't sound right what they are doing. I won't go too much into it, but when I was a kid, the authorities (police, fire dept.) tried to make a case against my mom for a house fire that was likely started by the landlord who also probably had city connections. He probably wanted to collect insurance rather than fix his property. Luckily, my mom had her brother's support, who told her to get a lawyer. Well, once these people saw my mom was gonna fight, they left it alone, and it remained unsolved. Is it possible the person who did this knows people with social services? You don't have to answer, it's just something to think about.
I hope your daughter will be safe now, and have a chance to recover from this trauma. You should be damn angry, but remain calm, so they do not continue to smear you.

[Toller]

I've been finding out bits of horrible details. These so called Social Workers have had a long history with my ex. They have been known to my ex for quite some time and they have been helping her in the past. They also deliberately kept out another 'relevant' person as they didn't want them finding out what happened. One other thing I heard just recently and find disturbing is that the person that the social work want to 'care' for the children had threatened one of the children to withhold information and were told to "keep their big mouth shut". I'm taking this all to my lawyer tomorrow and once the court case is all over I'm suing these Social Workers or taking them to the newspapers.

[Toller]

My daughter (who is four years old) had been returned to the house where she was abused and neglected 3 weeks ago upon the recommendations of the social work. There is someone in custody on a charge of attempted murder but will be at least four months or so away for a trial. The first night back she screamed in her bed and her older sister took her into her bed and she has been sleeping beside her in her bed ever since. My four year old is unable to sleep by herself. The social work know this but never bothered to tell me. I am only allowed to see my children for three and a half hours a week. They are living with their grandmother who has never bothered about them before, never babysat saying she was either too busy or unwell. She is a stranger to them. My four year old won't even look at her or interact with her. Each time I return her back to that hell of a house she gets upset. I have told social work this but they say everything is fine and they haven't observed any stress. Now they have accused me of willful neglect to justify the reason for my "managed" contact with my children. Their definition of willful neglect is causing unnecessary suffering or injury to health. What had happened is on the 23rd December I picked up my three children to take them to my home and stay over to the next day. As soon as I arrived my ex partner told me that the youngest child had fell down the stairs and went over her injuries which were to the head, back and stomach. I asked her specifically if my daughter had been to hospital or seen by a doctor. I was told by my ex that she called the NHS 24 and that my daughter had been seen to. NHS 24 is a sort of non emergency service who will give advice or send medical attention if needed. At this point I had no reason to doubt what she told me and believed her. I took my children and kept an eye on my youngest who seemed to have perked up and was laughing and playing with the others while she was in my care. I watched out for her getting any worse or becoming tired or drowsy but she was absolutely fine. If she did display any of these signs I would have taken her to hospital. I returned the children back the next day on the 24th December.

The next time I saw my youngest daughter was on the 5th January in hospital in an induced coma. When she came around she saw me and said "Daddy, I want to go to your house!". These were the very first words she said. She repeated this throughout the whole six weeks she was in hospital.

The social work are claiming willful neglect on my part as not seeking medical attention on the 23rd or 24th December when I had her and that I took my ex partners words at face value. Technically looking at it, she wasn't in any unnecessary suffering or injury as she was improving. The unnecessary suffering or injury was to keep her in that house with a monster and neglectful mother. Also the social work are being willfully neglectful themselves by keeping her in a house where she is distressed and can't even sleep in her own bed and can't get on with her estranged grandmother.

Also the way they have worded their statement, they make it look like I had her with the full life threatening injuries that she had on the 5th January and she had significant injuries to her buttocks and genitals that she had difficulty walking. Believe me, if her injuries were so severe on that day I picked her up, I wouldn't be sitting here now typing on a computer, I would be sitting in jail on a murder charge of the guy that did this stuff to her. It would be a totally different story. My ex met this guy online at the end of October and moved him in to the house two days after meeting him. I never knew she had a guy living at the house and later found out she left him alone with the children while she went out and even worse, she allowed this guy to take my youngest daughter out with him alone whereupon he took her to his house for hours at a time. We can only guess what he was doing. Why would any mother allow that? There was an earlier incident where this guy had dragged one of the older girls upstairs by her hair and assaulted her in her room. The grandmother who is currently my childrens main carer knew of this and told her daughter (my ex) to get this guy out of the house but nothing ever came of it and she didn't contact the police about the assault. She was aware of this guys character but never told me. I knew absolutely nothing about this guy. Also the grandmother ran out of my daughters medicine and 2 or 3 days later on the day I was getting contact she snapped at me and told me I need to get the medicine. She should have done this straight away when it happened instead of leaving it to me. The grandmother isn't interested in the children, she is interested in money. They are just an income to her, she will receive money for caring for them. She isn't even doing any of the caring, the oldest girl is looking after the younger children by bathing them, dressing them and getting them ready for school and administering medicine to the youngest. The grandmother is unfit and can hardly walk and receives disability benefits.

The social work are writing glowing reports of how brilliant the grandmother is doing and have only ever written negative things about me which are very unfair and unjust. They keep insisting that they are doing everything in the childrens best interest. They know the system and using the system to keep these children in a home where they don't feel safe and are distressed. None of this makes sense. They defend the grandmother to the hilt with any and all complaints or concerns raised about her. Concerns that are not only raised by me but by other people as well, it's not just me complaining. On top of this my ex is not allowed to see the children unsupervised yet she has been going in and out of the house freely to see the children by herself. This has been reported to the police but cannot be proven. She gets supervised visits two or three times a week and the times when she takes it upon herself to go in. She put them in this situation and sees them more than I do. I have done nothing wrong and I get treated like a criminal. The social work are doing everything they can to prevent me from getting my own children.