[jaderollan]

But when I bring it up, Abuser in question says it's not occurring and that I'm mentally ill. I have panic disorder but function academically, at work and as a parent. Looking for anyone who's experienced similar or can help me understand my feelings. Today I am not functioning well or able to focus.

[PumpkinPieHead]

You must read: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

And then run from that SO!

[nicoleflynn]

Verbal abuse is literally brainwashing. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. They do not care what you think or feel. You can protect yourself by not responding to the abuse. Abusers are excuciatingly insecure and blame everyone else; they never look at their behavior. I stayed for 31 years, until I found the answer......that book which explained everything. If you google verbal abuse...there is a wealth of information. Unless an abuser recognizes his behavior and gets into therapy for themselves; they will never change. Every time you hear abuse your body releases cortisol and cortisol damages the immune system (as a moderator of an abused survivors' group) I have never met a woman who didn't have all kinds of physical illness.

Violence Wheel - Domestic Violence

An abusive person will always turn the issue around on you to make you think that's it all YOU. Like mentioned above, it's called gaslighting, which is a classic tactic an abuser uses to take the heat off of them and blame you for their abuse.

Get out now.