[Kise]

Hi, my name is Kise, and I'm new to the site.

I'm still struggling with coming to terms with my abusive situation.
I've done a ton of research these past few days and I believe what I'm dealing with would be classified as abuse. Although, if I had to search it up, I'm most likely experiencing it anyway.
My problems at the moment mainly stem from thinking that what I'm going through "couldn't possibly be abuse," that I'm "overreacting for no reason" or that "it's all my fault." I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and would be able to help with that?

Thanks in advance,
Kise

[Stone92]

This is very common, almost everyone who's been abused goes through this phase. I don't remember how I moved past my own phase, as it seems so long ago, now. But know that it does pass. Keep seeking out other survivors stories and experiences. Keep believing your own experiences and feelings. It's a difficult journey, but you've taken one of the hardest steps: the very first one.

Do you care to share the details of what you are experiencing? People here have a lot of experience with abuse and can help identify what is abuse and what is not abuse, including myself. I have been through many abusive relationships and have read a ton on abusive traits and behaviors. Typically, if you suspect it's abuse, it usually IS. And I'm very sorry you're going through that.

[Kise]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

Do you care to share the details of what you are experiencing? People here have a lot of experience with abuse and can help identify what is abuse and what is not abuse, including myself. I have been through many abusive relationships and have read a ton on abusive traits and behaviors. Typically, if you suspect it's abuse, it usually IS. And I'm very sorry you're going through that.

My parents belittle me constantly and tell me my opinions don't matter until I accomplish something. But even when I accomplish what they wish, it's never enough to them.
They always say I'm useless. On looking through my messages to friends, they said I was attention seeking and no one cared about me.
Every time I bring up my dad's problems with alcohol, the topic somehow comes back to me. I'm wrong, I'm the one who should fix my own problems, and I should just stop crying since it's some "admission of guilt."
We do get into physical confrontations mainly when my dad is drunk, which I do think would be considered physically abusive. However, this doesn't happen very often.
I'm sure there's more I can't remember at the moment, but this is all I have for now.

Peace,
Kise

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Kise

Hi, my name is Kise, and I'm new to the site.

I'm still struggling with coming to terms with my abusive situation.
I've done a ton of research these past few days and I believe what I'm dealing with would be classified as abuse. Although, if I had to search it up, I'm most likely experiencing it anyway.
My problems at the moment mainly stem from thinking that what I'm going through "couldn't possibly be abuse," that I'm "overreacting for no reason" or that "it's all my fault." I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and would be able to help with that?

Thanks in advance,
Kise

This is very common. I seen abuse by both sexes. Have you found therapist?

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Stone92

This is very common, almost everyone who's been abused goes through this phase. I don't remember how I moved past my own phase, as it seems so long ago, now. But know that it does pass. Keep seeking out other survivors stories and experiences. Keep believing your own experiences and feelings. It's a difficult journey, but you've taken one of the hardest steps: the very first one.

I agree!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Kise

My parents belittle me constantly and tell me my opinions don't matter until I accomplish something. But even when I accomplish what they wish, it's never enough to them.
They always say I'm useless. On looking through my messages to friends, they said I was attention seeking and no one cared about me.
Every time I bring up my dad's problems with alcohol, the topic somehow comes back to me. I'm wrong, I'm the one who should fix my own problems, and I should just stop crying since it's some "admission of guilt."
We do get into physical confrontations mainly when my dad is drunk, which I do think would be considered physically abusive. However, this doesn't happen very often.
I'm sure there's more I can't remember at the moment, but this is all I have for now.

Peace,
Kise

I'm so sorry that you are going through this! My mom was physically abusive toward me. My brother were just as bad. My dad did nothing to stop the abuse. My parent would tell me I never known anyone who had as many problems as you. I had alcoholic uncle.

[Kise]

Originally Posted by Buffy01

This is very common. I seen abuse by both sexes. Have you found therapist?

I have started seeing a therapist, but it's just hard for me to seek help on my own at this point. I'm 17 years old.

Peace,
Kise