[sadveiledbride]

I am seeing a new therapist. Initially I thought she was OK, because I had only met her a few times, but this past week when I saw her she said something triggering that's been making me fly off the handle for the last few days.
We were talking about my trauma and she said (I'll give a rough desc.) something along the lines of that I liked it.
I disassociated during the session when she said that.
For the last few days I've been fighting impulses like going on a reckless drive, self injury and such. I'm sitting here crying thinking about it.
My being a minor, my mother wants all 3 of us to sit down (my therapist, mother and I) to discuss it. This will be on Tuesday. I know how things like this go with adults/authority figures (my therapist in this situation) who have done something wrong. They make excuses for their actions and my parents believe them and force me to see them/deal with them/etc. (them-this person, similar situations, etc)
Any advice on how to deal with this?
(TL;DR: my therapist said something triggering and I have to meet with her to discuss it.)

[Bill3]

I'm sorry that your therapist, of all people, made that comment to you.



Please be safe as you deal with the aftermath of being triggered!

What happened during session after you dissociated?

How did your mother get involved?

[sadveiledbride]

After I disassociated (it was towards the end of the session) we said our goodbyes and I moved towards the door. My mother got involved because I told her. Initially, I didn't let her know for a day or two because I wanted to handle it myself, and due to the fact, I knew she'd still make me see this therapist, which is exactly what is happening. I bet after Tuesday's meeting I won't get a say at all and I'll continue seeing the therapist. **** that. I'm not going to see her again.
Thanks for the sentiment, though, appreciate it, and thanks for your reply.

[Bill3]

Thanks for your reply.

I hope that (if okay) you will let us know what happens on Tuesday.

[sadveiledbride]

Yes I will. Thanks for the support!

Wow, that must be frustrating...some people can be so unprofessional and inappropriate regardless of their titles. Maybe you can say to your mother:

"I am very focused on my therapy goal and am determined to make progress.
I don't feel that this is possible with this therapist and do not wish to waste both my time and her time, and your money, on something that will not work out.
Please see that I have not given up on therapy altogether. But she is just not a good fit for me, as I don't feel safe with her. Please let me work with another therapist."

[sadveiledbride]

Thank you for the reply! I have talked to my mother and she is exploring options and I likely will not see her again (the therapist) but will still have to to meet with her for an individual session tonight. Wish me luck and I will post an update.

[Bill3]

Good job speaking with your mother and good luck!

[sadveiledbride]

Hi everyone,
Thanks for all your replies and support. I talked to this therapist and I will continue seeing her for now. She explained what she said and I’m still a bit upset over it but I can deal. Everything is OK now.
Thanks a lot y’all!

[Fuzzybear]

I’m sending hugs