I lied to t in first session. I want to come clean but scared if I should

I really like my new t. She's really professional and I've become attached and am opening up well to her. In our first session she asked me about previous therapy and I told her about CBT online and she asked me quite a few questions about it then she asked me if I had done any other counselling. I said no but now I feel guilty I lied as I saw ex t for about 3 years but I was still really hurting from her and I panicked and said no. I don't know whether I should tell her I lied and tell her about ex t but I'm scared she'll be angry I lied and won't believe me anymore about other stuff. I'm also worried as ex t had boundary issues and I ended up hurt from what she use to say and do and I don't want her to change

You should tell her right away and earn back the trust. Better late than never. Better soon than delayed. If she were to find out way later, she may feel like you have not been honest with her all along, and it would be harder to earn back her trust.

If you do not want to talk about your ex t, you can simply say,

"I didn't have a good experience with her and I do not feel ready to discuss her yet. But when I feel ready; I will."

If your current therapist pushes for information after that, that would not be a good sign.

Next time you see a new therapist, you should tell her the truth, and if it is the subject that you are not ready to face yet, simply let her know of that fact.

I think it would be best to tell her . if you explain you had a bad experience and panicked I'm sure she will be understanding of that

I agree with ennie.

Thank you I'm scared she will think I'm bad now like my family think of me. I said no as I had a really good friend who I was friends with during ex t who told me how unethical she was being and if I saw another t I should say I hadn't seen ex t as it will make new t behave differently. As soon as I said no I felt bad and since I've become more attached the more guilty I feel

I had a friend who was constantly anxious, enraged, hurt, upset - and her therapist asked her to check internally if what she was thinking as a result of this was true. Looking at your first sentence "I'm scared" is true, but the second part that a therapist will think about you like your family does is unreasonable don't you think. You hire a therapist to be understanding and help you, they do not live with you 24/7, they did not give birth to you, they are a space separate from you and family . Lots of people omit telling things when they are nervous. It's sounds like it is important for you to come clean about this because it's a toxic issue for you... and because trusting someone means testing being open with them. Do what you need to do and ask how she feels about it.

I lied to my current t, and all others before, about sexual assaults that happened on me as a child. Is always said there weren't. I didn't feel like I could tell anyone, until last year.

Definitely tell her. You will feel better for it in the long run and it will only benefit your therapy. I don’t think new Ts expect us to be 100% honest right off the bat - we’re scared and nervous, but you can start to build that trust by being honest. I remember when I started with my T he told me I had 24 hours to come clean with anything because after that there was just no way to work with the info. I took advantage of that 24 hour option a couple times and then decided it was just easier to come clean right off the bat.

Having said that, I am in a bit of a situation with him right now and tried to explain what happened when I saw him last Sunday. I left out a critical part (I was scared). I sent him a text yesterday telling him there’s more to the story and I’d rather he hear it from me than someone else. He wrote me back and said it’s ok - he’s got the situation under control. I was terrified to send the text but really didn’t want to fracture his trust in me.

Please tell her the truth before it is too late. I did lie to one of my therapists who was very caring and did not correct myself as I was embarrassed. I went the wrong path and then had to change therapist due to my own fault. It is easier to correct yourself sooner than later and your t would understand. This should not be too uncommon and a good t would totally get it.

I told her today and she thanked me for trusting her with this and it went really well. I'm so glad i did. She promised me that he would never change like ex t

It sounds like you feel bad that you did not disclose your prior interactions with therapy with your new therapist so I believe to get the most benefits out of your sessions, it would be a weight off your chest to tell T when you are ready. Any good helper would appreciate this and not hold it against you. It is understanding that when first starting, the therapist is getting to know you as well as you getting to know them and have to establish a trusting bond. This information could be beneficial to what changes could be made to further help you if the prior techniques of your ex t did not fully help. Im sure your new T would appreciate your honesty and know you are serious about how much this means to you.

Thank you I haven't been on here for a while. I told t that session and she was really good we talked a little bit about it and she told me she's really greatful and thankful that I told her so it went really well