[Spectrum1]

Advice on how to develop sister relationship when you are the victim and her husband is the sexual abuser

[Skeezyks]

Hello Spectrum: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I'm sorry I don't have the answer for you. Hopefully there will be other members, here on PC, who will have some insights they can offer. In the meantime, though, I wanted to simply welcome you to Psych Central.

One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships forum. Here's a link just in case you haven't already found it:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

And then here's a link to an article by our host Dr. John Grohol, Psy.D. on the subject of sexual abuse. The article provides links to a number of additional articles on the subject as well:

Coping with Sexual Abuse - Psych Central

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

[sarahsweets]

Oh my that is such an awful place to be...does your sister know? Is this something law enforcement needs to know? Do you have to be involved in her life? I mean like.. if its a situation where she knows and still sticks with him then she has made her choice right?

Hello Spectrum. I am so sorry you are in this situation. The abuse is not your fault. You deserve peace, unconditional safe love, and a bright future. Does your sister know about the abuse? Have you told anyone? Would you consider speaking with the police or your local doctor?

May I ask how old you are?

Sorry for all the questions. I just want to understand your situation better.

I hope you can find support from someone safe and trustworthy in your life.

[Abusedbysister]

Sorry to hear about your ordeal. I am not sure how you can develop a relationship until her husband is abusing you. Does she know about it? I think you need to stop the abuse to be able to have any relationship with her. Also, if she knows and doesnt do anything, it would be hard to have a trusting relationship.