[MrsA]

I have suspected for a while that my sister tells people things about me. Every time we had a big fight, she'd drive off to meet one of her friends. I knew she would repeat the lies she tells to me, that I'm a narcissist and that she has the burden of looking after me because I'm abnormally stupid.

This is the lie she has tried to force on me since she persuaded me to go into business with her and kept control of all the income. She can spend as much money as she wants and max put our credit cards, but if I want a few things a year, she blames me for the $70, 000+ of debt we have and calls me a narcissist for refusing to back down when I feel entitled to spend a little of the income I earn. When she spends $10 on iPad accessories or tv subscriptions, she says it's "cheap" and then she yells and rants when I need similar amounts of money for essentials. Then she denies ever telling me I can't spend money.

Just this month, she spent $400+ on her dog and screamed at me for needing $20. Then she ran off to one of her friends to play the victim ahd get sympathy. That's the friend who gave her the marijuana to deal with her "stress". I gathered from what she said that she told them about the reason for our fight and probably repeated all the lies she said to me.

I shouldn't care what people think if they aren't my friends anyways. But it's a small community and I might run into them knowing they probably believe my sister's lies and think I'm an evil person. Still, why should I care what they think? It just bothers me. This person who yelled at me my entire life and attacked me physically multiple times keeps claiming to be a victim. It's so disgusting!

[downandlonely]

Sorry about your sister.

[MrsA]

Thanks. I keep looking for a new job, but I'm isolated in a rural area so I'm still stuck.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by MrsA

I have suspected for a while that my sister tells people things about me. Every time we had a big fight, she'd drive off to meet one of her friends. I knew she would repeat the lies she tells to me, that I'm a narcissist and that she has the burden of looking after me because I'm abnormally stupid.

This is the lie she has tried to force on me since she persuaded me to go into business with her and kept control of all the income. She can spend as much money as she wants and max put our credit cards, but if I want a few things a year, she blames me for the $70, 000+ of debt we have and calls me a narcissist for refusing to back down when I feel entitled to spend a little of the income I earn. When she spends $10 on iPad accessories or tv subscriptions, she says it's "cheap" and then she yells and rants when I need similar amounts of money for essentials. Then she denies ever telling me I can't spend money.

Just this month, she spent $400+ on her dog and screamed at me for needing $20. Then she ran off to one of her friends to play the victim ahd get sympathy. That's the friend who gave her the marijuana to deal with her "stress". I gathered from what she said that she told them about the reason for our fight and probably repeated all the lies she said to me.

I shouldn't care what people think if they aren't my friends anyways. But it's a small community and I might run into them knowing they probably believe my sister's lies and think I'm an evil person. Still, why should I care what they think? It just bothers me. This person who yelled at me my entire life and attacked me physically multiple times keeps claiming to be a victim. It's so disgusting!

This sound like both of my sister. I'm sorry that your sister treating you this way. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

[Fuzzybear]

She is probably the one with Narcissistic injuries... and that is putting it politely.

hugs and respect

[sarahsweets]

I am sorry. I wish you were able to make a plan to get away from your sister.

[divine1966]

This new fed of calling everyone a narcissist is irritating. In fact many people who call everyone a narcissist exhibit clear signs of exactly same thing they accuse others of. At this point I’d consider homeless shelter over living with your sister

[Abusedbysister]

Abusers know how to manipulate. This is quite common with abusers that they pretend they are the victim so they can get away with they do. My sister did that all the time. She would beat me up badly and then she would say I attacked her and she was just defending herself. This is typical of abusers.

[TishaBuv]

It doesn’t make your sister look good to people to be trash talking you. The ones who know you, know you for how you represent yourself, regardless of what she says. The ones who don’t know you really don’t care. It goes in one ear and out the other.

I know it feels awful to be maliciously gossiped about. Hold your head up high. You know the truth and that you are a good person. Get away from your sister as soon as you can to save your own sanity.

[MrsA]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It doesn’t make your sister look good to people to be trash talking you. The ones who know you, know you for how you represent yourself, regardless of what she says. The ones who don’t know you really don’t care. It goes in one ear and out the other.

I know it feels awful to be maliciously gossiped about. Hold your head up high. You know the truth and that you are a good person. Get away from your sister as soon as you can to save your own sanity.

Thanks. I often need to remind myself that anyone who believes lies about me aren't worth thinking about. I seem to need regular reminders.

Thanks everyone for your support and for believing me. I'm afraid I come of as very negative during bad times.

[MsLady]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

It doesn’t make your sister look good to people to be trash talking you.

.. unless she is speaking out of "concern" to gain sympathies from their mutual friends. It's a mind f_k.

[TheSweetestTaboo]

It sounds like she is narcissistic, gas-lighting you.

Here's a video which shows how a real narcissist acts -