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Old Feb 02, 2021, 06:21 PM
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I found out in December my narcisstic husband was cheating on me. He came after me aggressively when I found out. I immediately filed for divorce. He became very nasty with me every interaction we had after and I chose to get a PFA against him before the pushing me with his face and body became something worse. We share a child together. The girl he cheated on me with has children as well, which she does not have custody of due to being unfit to be a mother and having a history of drug and alcohol abuse. My "husband" moved right in with her a week after we separated and got engaged to her a week later. Her driver's license is currently suspended for multiple DUIs. She also had a simple assault record. These are all within the last 2 years. He bought her a brand new car and she has been seen driving around by numerous people. We had our custody case and he was given 50/50 custody of our child even after we presented our case with evidence and court/custody records for the girl. I feel like it is so unjust considering he is how he is and he is living with someone who has been found unfit to have custody of her own chikdren. With him being a narcissist, it is only a matter of time before the environment becomes toxic for my child. Any advise or suggests on how to handle this?

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Old Feb 03, 2021, 03:14 PM
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Dear Melaz,

I am so sorry you are in this situation. It is really heartbreaking. I worry about your child too. Not being married or a parent, I lack knowledge, experience and insight about such things. But hopefully others here will see your post and respond with something helpful. Although you are limited now on the time you can spend with your child, you can still have a profound influence. I wish so much that I could be helpful to you but sadly I am at a loss. I do want to welcome you to these Forums and hope they will prove helpful to you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen
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Old Feb 03, 2021, 05:40 PM
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Does your husband also have a problem with alcohol abuse?
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Old Feb 03, 2021, 09:11 PM
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No he does not drink or do drugs.
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Old Apr 24, 2021, 02:41 PM
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I found out in December my narcisstic husband was cheating on me. He came after me aggressively when I found out. I immediately filed for divorce. He became very nasty with me every interaction we had after and I chose to get a PFA against him before the pushing me with his face and body became something worse. We share a child together. The girl he cheated on me with has children as well, which she does not have custody of due to being unfit to be a mother and having a history of drug and alcohol abuse. My "husband" moved right in with her a week after we separated and got engaged to her a week later. Her driver's license is currently suspended for multiple DUIs. She also had a simple assault record. These are all within the last 2 years. He bought her a brand new car and she has been seen driving around by numerous people. We had our custody case and he was given 50/50 custody of our child even after we presented our case with evidence and court/custody records for the girl. I feel like it is so unjust considering he is how he is and he is living with someone who has been found unfit to have custody of her own chikdren. With him being a narcissist, it is only a matter of time before the environment becomes toxic for my child. Any advise or suggests on how to handle this?
Hello Melaz, kudos to you for getting away from him. Right now, you are there. He sounds dangerous. I hope you are keeping a daily log. If he's that forceful with you, never be alone with him. For sure be civil for the sake of your child. Beyond that, do everything you can to protect yourself and your child. Make sure if he gets physical, that you press charges. It's kind of dicey here, not knowing all the facts. Best wishes, courage and hugs my friend. PS if the new woman is violent with assault, can't have her own kids, that's a scary situation.
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Old Apr 25, 2021, 05:28 PM
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Contact the ministry and have them open a file. Log everything and report to them.

Communicate only via email and keep a paper trail.

How old is your child?
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