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Mar 17, 2023 at 06:46 AM
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On the surface, the degree and intensity of the emotional abuse I have experienced, is mild. It was covert, insidious. It was the gaslighting feeling of being unseen. I finally learned those people intentionally acted unseeing. Once I got it, I distanced myself and protected myself.
Of course it makes sense that I would feel destabilized because those few people professed to love me, then treated me so callously and dismissively. The “mild” emotional abuse sent me reeling into severe emotional dysregulation. Distancing myself has completely stopped the emotional lability instantly. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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Mar 17, 2023 at 06:54 AM
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Mar 17, 2023 at 11:54 AM
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Emotional abuse.My dad should be crowned the king of it.And yet he successfully portrayed himself as this kind,generous and pious man to the world.
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Mar 25, 2023 at 05:39 PM
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Mar 25, 2023 at 09:26 PM
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Emotional abuse, mental abuse. It's right up there with the worst of it. The gaslighting and dismissiveness, the suppressing of the individuals validity, the abuse of trust and undermining of love. I mean that's literally how wars start, that's how bad it is. Vendettas.🙏
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Mar 27, 2023 at 02:19 AM
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Yes..my adoptive mother projected a lot into me. She constantly told me what I felt was a lie. Like I didn't love her.
Imagine being a growing child and being told your positive emotions were lies and that you only had negative emotions. Thrn whrn you reacted to your negative emotions the caregiver would sit back and smile and relax. Her job done She no longer carried negativity she's off loaded it onto me a child. A complete mind f.. |
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Mar 27, 2023 at 06:20 AM
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I was verbally and physically abused by my mother, then verbally and physically abused my my (now ex) husband. It took me 31 years to get a divorce. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life and sanity . I think it should be required reading for everyone, since verbal abuse is rampant.
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Mar 27, 2023 at 03:38 PM
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It's what they do to make you doubt yourself. Crazy making behaviour and words. The denial and the gaslighting. The jekyll and hyde switches of personality that happen without warning, leaving you feeling where the hell did that come from?
Emotional abuse may not leave any physical scars, but it does leave a lot of mental ones. Sent from my SM-A526B using Tapatalk __________________ To the world you might be just one person; but to one person you might be the world. |
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Jun 20, 2023 at 11:41 PM
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I have ptsd from my extensive complex trauma as a child. Her emotional and physical abuse changed me forever.
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Jul 21, 2023 at 09:31 AM
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