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Trig Apr 04, 2024 at 12:20 AM
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I live in s homeless shelter in a room with four beds. Two of which, at the time of writing this, are empty and expecting inhabitants. We'll see who turns up, though I don't have high expectations.

Luckily, one of the sociopaths I live with (the overt one) left. He was abusing me emotionally for coercive control. I'm now left living with the covert sociopath who abuses me emotionally whenever he feels bad (for example, when the shelter staff impose rules on him - he turns on me). I've tried reporting him to the manager whenever he broke the rules of the shelter, however they allied with him telling me "I've to tell him something".
Most recently he started unplugging my extended from the socket wall leaving me without electricity to charge my phone in an attempt to hurt me.

From what I've gathered so far, as advice, is to keep a journal with all the instances (date, time, details of abuse). I'm doing this, and will also take photos when it'll happen next time (he's out of the shelter sleeping at his buddies some days of the week [max allowed days out of the shelter are 2, but he leaves for more than that ; because, as he himself said "he can do anything"]).

I'm looking for any other advice I can follow to tackle abuse in the homeless shelter. Once I get out, of course, (if I'll ever get out) and, if I'll have enough money for a good lawyer, I'll sue him.
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Default Apr 04, 2024 at 11:56 AM
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Hi. I am very sorry you have to endure this crap! I too, have suffered through abuse because I was stuck somewhere. And I stayed silent. Please take that advice to document every vile action towards u! I wish I would've done that for myself & pressed charges. Protect yourself. U have human rights & u are being harassed. There is also criminal harassment, which is what my abusers did to me. Stand up for your rights. That idiot is trying to get under your skin, big-time. Stand your ground & your personal space, where you're at....
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Hi. I am very sorry you have to endure this crap! I too, have suffered through abuse because I was stuck somewhere. And I stayed silent. Please take that advice to document every vile action towards u! I wish I would've done that for myself & pressed charges. Protect yourself. U have human rights & u are being harassed. There is also criminal harassment, which is what my abusers did to me. Stand up for your rights. That idiot is trying to get under your skin, big-time. Stand your ground & your personal space, where you're at....
Thank you so much for your support, @shovelhead . And sorry you have gone through abuse. Indeed I'm keeping a log of date, time and details of abuse of each incident. He's trying to coerce me into submission so he can ask me for money and such. However, I'm standing my ground. I'm not talking to him and he knows there's no point in trying, that's why he resorts to these abusive tactics. I once went to a support group and they gaslight me into saying they're not sociopaths, just emotional vampires. That's pretty much it for victims of abuse in homelessness and human rights. In a country in Western Europe. 😕
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Default Apr 06, 2024 at 12:42 PM
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Emotional vampires, lmao! They sound like true idiots. Laugh right in their face & stay tough as nails. U gotta be tough when you're homeless. I have also been homeless from alcoholism. This entire world is a very tough place. But u will value all of these hard times because they are great teaching tools for your future. I'm probably older than u and I promise u will become super strong from all this constant suffering. U will laugh someday about these idiots childish antics. They're weirdos for sure..
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Default Apr 06, 2024 at 01:58 PM
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Emotional support like yours makes all the difference. 😊
I truly appreciate your kind words, @shovelhead .

Indeed the world is a tough place, and, I'm sorry to hear you experienced homelessness due to old coping mechanisms. I'm happy that you're in a better place now. I coped by drinking in my early teens. Not drinking anymore, though the temptation to get a glass is there when under high stress. Luckily, I've been able to put it off and drink water instead, mostly by dissociating and not feeling my body. Also, alcohol wouldn't go well with my anti psychotic, haha.

I understand hurt people hurt people, it's just that it's tough when it's ongoing, on an almost daily basis, and you're disabled, unable to afford housing. 😔
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Default Apr 09, 2024 at 09:30 AM
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In the end, I couldn't bare any more abuse (from the shelter staff and the sociopathic roommates), I decided to take to the streets. Wish me luck everyone.
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Default May 03, 2024 at 10:51 AM
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So, a while after having gone back to the shelter things have been quiet for a while. Last night, however, they kept the TV on until I was woken up at 1:36am. I couldn't sleep afterwards because one of the new guys kept all the rest awake. I realized I've to make small talk with the new guy (the butcher) who kept everyone awake as he was angry that someone stole coffee powder from him, aaanndd, I suspect the other two (or one of them) blamed it on me - it wouldn't surprise me. Yeah, life in a homeless shelter for you. On the other hand, I got sick. Today I pushed through getting a huge amount of changes for my app into the working branch. 5000+ additions, almost 500 deletions. That's a lot of lines of code. Left testing anything I've missed for when I'll have the app ready for testing. The butcher guy also had heroin on him from what I heard him talking with the guy below my bed. They're building housing for people with disabilities, though I fear it's just for a few years and then they'll stop - not reaching me. If the extremists come to power after this year's elections, I can most certainly kiss goodbye to any hopes for early housing (or any housing). Probably they'll stop my disability allowance or even deport me (though I'm an EU citizen - this will require the dissolution of the EU). Having dinner now and afterwards I'll head to the shelter. Awful feeling every single time. Taking the next week off to recover from flu. Also, finished one book by Thierry Wolton. Interesting ideas in his books.
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Default May 15, 2024 at 06:38 AM
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Last night, overt sociopath & addict, the butcher, came late and, of course, as always, he woke me up. Apparently, someone stole his smartphone while he was away. Another awesome day in paradise.
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Default May 17, 2024 at 07:18 AM
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One more night where the covert sociopaths woke me up. These people grew up without a schedule or sleep regimen. They constantly stay up late, disturb my sleep and go to sleep when it's almost daylight. I took it pretty bluntly.
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From saving these past two weeks while I was sick I had some spare money. Decided to treat myself with an Italian meal at an Italian restaurant. Pretty expensive, though haven't been in ages. Left a pretty hefty tip despite the waiter being narcissistic. Now I'm eating a vegan brownie and will have a decaf oat latte afterwards. Suicide thoughts still persist. Too... Much... Pain. I'm very sensitive to food and sleep.

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My doctor asked me if I've
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last time we've met. I answered in the positive but that I'd need money to carry it out. In recent times however, I came to a different method that would require none. It does involve being out and about, however, which increases chances of being stopped by other people in the pursuit of going through with it.
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. My idea that I'll resume work and focus on my app again next week and I want to wait and see how it'll pan out is what keeps me alive at this moment. Will see how it goes. If it fails,
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Default May 18, 2024 at 12:57 AM
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Last night, the butcher came back to the shelter. Surprisingly, he was quiet. Everybody was quiet and the TV was off. I managed to sleep well and my headache receded. Also, I was in huge digestive system pain last night and it went away. Note to myself: no more gluten in abundance - no more Italian food.
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I live in s homeless shelter in a room with four beds. Two of which, at the time of writing this, are empty and expecting inhabitants. We'll see who turns up, though I don't have high expectations.

Luckily, one of the sociopaths I live with (the overt one) left. He was abusing me emotionally for coercive control. I'm now left living with the covert sociopath who abuses me emotionally whenever he feels bad (for example, when the shelter staff impose rules on him - he turns on me). I've tried reporting him to the manager whenever he broke the rules of the shelter, however they allied with him telling me "I've to tell him something".
Most recently he started unplugging my extended from the socket wall leaving me without electricity to charge my phone in an attempt to hurt me.

From what I've gathered so far, as advice, is to keep a journal with all the instances (date, time, details of abuse). I'm doing this, and will also take photos when it'll happen next time (he's out of the shelter sleeping at his buddies some days of the week [max allowed days out of the shelter are 2, but he leaves for more than that ; because, as he himself said "he can do anything"]).

I'm looking for any other advice I can follow to tackle abuse in the homeless shelter. Once I get out, of course, (if I'll ever get out) and, if I'll have enough money for a good lawyer, I'll sue him.
I am really sorry for your ordeal. I know how it is to feel trapped with someone who you cannot escape. I used to share a bedroom with my abusive, bullying little sister who used and abused me like a slave. Please keep details of the abuse in the journal (as you are doing) and try to find allies who would witness the abuse and they can help you get a better chance of convincing the shelter staff. I wish you luck.
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Default May 20, 2024 at 11:55 AM
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I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, they really do work on you and torment you. It took forever to get away from my ex, but he ended up cheating on me which he never once admitted too.. He kept telling me I was the cheater. In the end when he ghosted me, I didn't even bother to confront him, because I was glad he was gone with my life. I just wanted to focus on myself. I hope you end up getting free from him and if you want to take it court I would do so. Stand your ground and show him that your not afraid of him. Just write everything down like the person above me suggested to you. Jog everything down, details, when it happened, the time, dates, everything. Keep track of all of it. If you know anyone who witnessed it, ask them if they'd be willing to stand by you. I wish you nothing but the best. Give us updates on your situation. I wish you nothing but the best. Safe hugs.
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Oh my gosh! Thank you so much for the support! It's a slow grind. I tried before ending up homeless to work in a warehouse, though I was
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. So I quit after a week. The only thing I know is computer programming, though this takes a long time and investment to show results. It's just that living with difficult people makes life so unbearable. Lately, it has been quiet and I'm getting some progress with my project. I hope by the end of the year to have a functional bare minimum implementation. If so, I'll be able to look for sponsors and get it started. Hanging as best as I can. Though, sometimes, I seriously contemplate
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