I’m sick of my abusive mother calling me a smart mouth

My mother loves to complain about everything and everyone that is against her. I cannot live with her anymore because of her bulls***. I cannot even travel with her anymore because of the way she acts.

She’ll run her mouth to anyone she can get her hands onto and complain about how much everyone sucks except for her and her buddies. She’ll go on and on forever and until I (or someone else) say something back to her in any kind of disagreement, she will snap and then try to attack me (or them). As you can see, no one’s opinion matters, except for her own.

As expected, she’ll complain and complain all day, but once I tell her something she doesn’t like and without her permission, she blows up. She will go “shut your smart mouth! It’s every word that comes out of your mouth that’s smart!”.

And what makes HER mouth? Stupid? I called her out saying that she was the one who was running her mouth and talking s*** about everyone she doesn’t like. But of course she projects onto me and says that I’m the one who’s doing all the blabbering. The she adds “every time I say something, you always have to come back with something snappy”.

And what, her s*** talking is somehow excusable because she’s doing it? If I dare stand up to her, she’ll always tell me “shut up”, but when I tell HER to shut up, she snaps “YOU BETTER SHUT YOUR MOUTH A DISRESPECTING ME, GIRL!!!”.

She is a ******* hypocrite and she knows it. She always tells me to get over it when I have something to complain about, but when someone tells her to stop complaining, she gets madder than fire.

She tells me to shut up and I say back to her “you will not tell me to shut up because I am a grown *** woman and I can say and do whatever the **** I want!”. She desperately wants to win the argument so she’ll come back with something lame such as “oh sure, you’re acting like a grown woman, alright! Just listen to how mature you are, always screaming at me and calling me names!” so she can tear me down. She knows that I am destroying her fragile ego, and she hates it. That’s why she says whatever she could to keep herself above me.

She knows she’s abusing me and she doesn’t care. She knows I get angry because she knows how to push my buttons in order to defend her fragile ego. I no longer want anything to do with her. I’m tired of keeping my mouth shut while this b**** can go around bullying and taking advantage of everyone she hates.

I’m getting my own allies.

I'm so sorry you are in that situation. I can definitely identify with you. Wish I knew what to say to help.

My father was consumed by self-hate and deep seated self-loathing and he projected it onto others in order to relieve himself of the pain. I didn't really realize this at a deep level until I was 69 years old. I think he suffered from undiagnosed mental illness. He made life into a living nightmare for so many people including me. I'm so sorry you are in similar circumstances!!!

I personally have mental health problems as well, and I feel sometimes that my mom would use that to take advantage of me and label me as the problem. Other than that, thank you for your support.