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#1
Apr 01, 2008, 01:24 PM
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I am new here. I was sexually abused from a very young age. I dont want to go into details really, but I am in therapy and does anyone else feel they are just wasting their therapists time? I go in there every week and never know what to say ... so I end up just crying and telling her my struggles from day to day rather than anything that happened in the past. I just dont know where to start. I suppose I know other people have had it worse than me and I just feel like I am feeling sorry for myself
pastimes 
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Apr 01, 2008, 11:09 PM
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<font color="purple">Believe me, when it comes time to talk, you'll talk. There really isn't a need to rush into things </font>
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Apr 02, 2008, 05:24 AM
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(((((pastimes)))))
it will happen when you are ready...
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Apr 02, 2008, 06:16 AM
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maybe your past is so problematic precisely because it impacts on your present. maybe talking to her about stuff in the present is precisely what you need to do. and maybe it will focus in on the current rememberings once trust is built up. takes time. hang in there.
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#5
Apr 02, 2008, 12:40 PM
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pastimes, I agree with the previous posts. You'll get to the past when it's time. For now, the present sounds much more pressing.
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. Stay safe. Cyran0
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My blog: http://cyran0.psychcentral.net/ Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD (childhood physical/sexual abuse), history of drug abuse. Meds: Zoloft, Lorazapam, Coffee, Cigarettes "I may climb perhaps to no great heights, but I will climb alone." -Cyrano de Bergerac |
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Apr 03, 2008, 01:06 PM
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((((((pastimes)))))))) like everybody said already...it'll happen when you're ready. no T should feel you're wasting their time...and you shouldn't feel like you're wasting theirs...it's a process that takes time...building up trust with your T for one thing doesn't happen overnite. go easy on yourself and take the time you need. 
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#7
Apr 04, 2008, 12:34 AM
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i think that's the most common worry we all have... and really, you will get there when you're ready.
i did actually have -a newby t- tell me "this was a waste of my time and yours" because i didn't speak at all (selective mutism) and when i have told other t's that who have been in the biz a while they were all so shocked *they* were speachless!! In other words - you cannot waste your t's time.... it is YOUR time, you're paying them! =)
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#8
Apr 05, 2008, 09:14 PM
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pastimes, sometimes my therapy is about my current struggles and sometimes it includes parts of the abuse. When I first started therapy, I had to get my current situation under control so I had a good foundation to explore the abuse. Now, I am doing therapy that does not go back and examine the abuse. I no longer talk about the specific abuse. Instead, I focus on my current feelings and then relate them to how the abuse affects me in the here and now. It is therapy that is oriented towards my daily struggles because the abuse still affects me--especially in the area of self-esteem and self-worth.
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