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Apr 11, 2008, 10:18 PM
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A year ago I was a mess. At the time I was living here with my dad...but my computer was upstairs instead of down here in the basement where my room is. I'd be on the computer doing my thing and I don't know...I'd see movement out of the corner of my eye...the movement was my dad touching himself.
 He had started to look at me sexually and comment on me...so I left in a hurry...While I was away I met a guy in Colorado who turned out to be a monster...he ended up stalking me and didn't let me have my own friends and went everywhere with me and all that. I didn't have the money to get my own place so I came home. Dad had apologized for his behavior (he didn't say exactly what it was...he just said you do things when you're lonely) so I thought it would be different if I came home. So I was doing laundry last night and it was late...he was watching tv...and I turned my head and there he was...doing things...touching himself in front of me again. He was under a blanket but you can tell what he was doing.... I just don't know what to do anymore... |
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Apr 11, 2008, 10:21 PM
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May I ask where your mother is at???
Is she still in the picture....nearby?
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Apr 11, 2008, 10:38 PM
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My mom is dead.
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Apr 11, 2008, 10:56 PM
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Sounds like you need to get out of there again TG....Is that
possible..your situation sounds terrible...any friends u can talk with, sisters, brothers? Relatives....In the mean-time you need to make it known to your dad that thats inappropriate..and that you are his daughter.
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Apr 11, 2008, 11:55 PM
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All my friends are online. My sis is in the process of moving to Okinawa and my brother is in a nasty toxic situation himself. I only have one friend offline that's close but she wouldn't be able to take me in.
I'm not sure where I could go right now... |
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Apr 12, 2008, 12:28 AM
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I am so sorry to hear that your dad is doing that. It is totally inappropriate and if there is ANYTHING you can do to figure out how to get out of there, then do it.
If you can't get out of there, try to stay away from him and tell him that you don't like him doing that. Other than that I can only offer some  at the moment.BJ
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#7
Apr 12, 2008, 10:45 AM
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i don't know if you want to do this... but maybe talk to someone at the local crisis center... they might have some ideas for you... i know that the center by my home will meet with you 10 times... without charging... and they may have resources in the community that could help you find a safe place to live... lyn
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Apr 12, 2008, 03:06 PM
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I see my T on Wednesday so I'll see what she can find for me I guess. I mean it's nice being home...haven't had to be on my own in a long time really...so we'll see what can be done.
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Apr 21, 2008, 01:14 PM
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I went through a similar situation with one of my mother's boyfriends. It's a tough place to be in. I know you love your dad, but if he is being that inappropriate towards you it is time to leave. Go anywhere that is safe. I know how tough it is to try to go out on your own. It's really scarey, especailly since it has been a while since you were on your own. Remember that his behavior says more about him that it does you, and it is in NO WAY YOUR FAULT. If he can't control himself maybe he needs therapy. If he is that lonely then he needs to do something about it. I mean there are women out there that are just as lonely. It his responsibility to find someone to vent his sexual frustrations on and that someone is NOT his daughter... if he can't get that then he is the one with the problem not you.
It also sounds like he is insensitive about your abuse history. I wonder if he realizes how triggering his behavior really is? Please feel free to PM me at anytime if you ever need anything. I am here for you... Take care, Be safe, Blueswoman1974 |
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Apr 21, 2008, 01:25 PM
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I'm no expert and do not have the experience, but IMHO ...
Your dad needs help. Maybe your age is a factor in your being able to leave, but whatever the case, you need to get out of there until your dad gets help. Maybe you can tell him something like that as you leave again. Be sure you're on your way out the door because you want a place to go if the comments set him into a rage. Look for a teen shelter or a women's shelter in a larger city. They will care for you and protect you. They will even help hide you. Maybe this seems like an undesirable alternative, but an even worse alternative is for you to give in to your dad or for him to go further than he has. That is a life-time problem, not just an event. There are some ppl here who can give you sound advice. Maybe you can even email or chat Doc John. Congrats on your 27 days. I'm proud of you! Trent
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