[mtd]

I wish I didn't worry about every child I meet, wondering if they are hiding a secret trauma, like I did when I was their age. I'm constantly reminded of my past this way. I hate that.

mtd

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i get like that sometimes too, especially if the child is withdrawn and doesn't smile much, you're not alone hon ... gentle hugs, Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxo

I feel that same way, mtd. I thought I was the only one who thought about that.

[sujunew]

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I think that's what triggered my memories...when my daughter reached the same age I was when...
I always look harder at children that young, and wonder how anyone could ever hurt someone so little... I find it really sad

[Justgiving]

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I think of children often too. Not only my own. Such tiny vulnerable angels.

me too... sometimes I can "sense" a child's secret pain... once my neighbor's grandchild... it hurt so bad.. to see her to know.. to have to tell her grandma... and I was right.. it was her own son...and her grandchild.. was taken from.. the home.. to live with grandma..

so.. I see children.. and "I know"... is not the first time....

and battered women... I can tell in a heartbeat... after meeting them in person...

it makes... my soul ache.. with pain..

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this is very triggering ..... only read if in a safe place please ......




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there is a family living a few doors down from my IRL best friend, something happens every day, he is an alcoholic, she is battered, the children watch. We havetold the police on several occasions when we can't listen to the screams any longer ... they take him away, let him back afew hours later ... the children are 5 and 2. It breaks my heart .... there have been occasions when i've wanted to go round there and sheer anger would pin HIM against the wall.... she daren't leave .... he says i'm sorry .... the cycle continues, social services and the school have been informed ..... they're USELESS.....

it triggers me when i see the house these days ..... i wish someone would DO something ..... we have tried, the old lady next door now lives in her kitchen because she can't stand the screaming and the children crying .... she daren't get involved because she also lives in fear of HIM ..... she has called the police on one occasion, we have called them several times ....

he always ends up going back and so does she ..... it's just those children i worry for ..... the 5 year old is so grown up. She tells her mummy to go inside so he can't get her if they are coming home from somewhere, we've all heard her..... jinny (sad)

[Kiya]

=( same here. like free, it hurts all the more to be correct in my assumptions... at least the guy went to jail.
working in schools now, i am glad i am on lexapro or i'd be in a real bad state all the time with depression and panic attacks - seeing the kids withdawn the way i was. knowing that no one knows or will help them. can't ask any leading questions.
i was asked outright as a kid and said no. how could i tell them what i didn't have words for, couldn't comprehend, the on-going nightmare within my own home.
i want to hug all the kids to me and take them home with me - protect them.

[springflower]

I totally understand. It is hard to see. And abuse is kept so quiet

[selfy]

the quietness of abuse is sad. thats a sad story jinn, and i would want to do something myself too. there have been occasions where ive noticed things, that make me sad. in our local cub group, one of the mothers treats her youngest son quite badly. when shes not around other people, shes always yelling at him, and always hitting him. ive pointed this out to the leader of the cub group, where his older sister goes, he cant be more than 5. i dont understand how she can be so cruel to him, every time he sees me he cries 'Dotty!' and runs up to hug me. hes such a sweet little child. the worst of it is i dont think anyone has done anything about it. i think they either dont want to get involved, or they think, hes not part of the group, not their problem. i just want to take him home and give him hugs and make him happy.

[pachyderm]

> i just want to take him home and give him hugs and make him happy.

I think that giving him hugs as much as you can is good.

The mother could probably use some hugs too -- but she might attack anyone suggesting that sort of thing -- she probably believes that any offered comfort is a delusion and a trick. Still it needs to be done, only in a way that takes into account her fears.

Not easy. Needs to be done.

[selfy]

i believe his mother is having a hard time actually. i think shes a single mother, and her daughter has learning difficulties.
but thats still no reason to treat her son the way she does. hes such a sweetie.
ill just try to send my concerns to the group leader. i think they have got their concerns for him but justhavent done anything as yet that i can think of.
hmmm