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me es trin tu unstan sumdin: dey say we r survivors uf abuse but if dats de case yea we made it tru awl of the pain, torchurs and etc. but how can we be survivors iffa we still having the afects uf wat dey ded still hapenin?

Hi Littlelynn!

You are so adorable and I just hope I can tell you how important a question you have asked! Little ones ask the best questions!!!

Sometimes, I think big people use the word, 'survivor' to make themselves feel better.

But, it certainly is not true of the little ones.

I think little ones are 'victims' but are victims who win!!!! or are winners as opposed to survivors!!!! All little ones are WINNERS!!! you included for sure!!! Because you were always meant to be here from the very start and because you have made it this far and that makes you the biggest WINNER!!!!
(You might have to have a big part explain the difference to you between Victim and Survivor, again and again until you understand, but that's okay. That's what big people do).

I like to put the word 'survivor' in the garbage along with the phrase 'get closure'. Those are words that the some bad people use so they don't have to face up to the wrongs that were done.

I have a lot of smiles for you but I am sorry I haven't learned how to put up the sparkly things yet.

I still think you are sooooo adorable! An adorable WINNER!!!!

me no dink me win. me no dink me wil evr win. me nose dey no heer no mor but wen me havin memries, me still heer, feel, smell dem an du wat dey tell me tu du. so dey win awl times.

littlelynn

I am really mad: at those bad people who tricked you!!! and I'm not going to let them think they win just because of smells, sounds and feelings that they left behind in your memory.

I am a big friend to you right this minute and I won't let them put their smell, or touch, or sound any where near you!!!!

They tricked you so badly that they even made you think they can still make you feel bad. They are wrong!!!! They are the losers and someday, even right now, all those smells and sounds and feelings that you have about them are going to be replaced with scents that you love and music that you like to play and listen to and touches that are safe and happy for you.

It might take practising a little longer but because you are here today you are a WINNER and you will and are succeeding, like in your posts.

See how mad I am at them: They better stay away from tricking your mind anymore!!!!!

I believe you and I believe 'in' you! I was just looking into the garden the last night and there are some cute things there, not as cute as you though!!!!

((((((((((((littlelynn))))))))))
maybe they called us survivor just because physically we still alived...
i know its hard ..iam here for you to...

littlelynn

Yes, that is right you are a WINNER because you survived physically and now you are working on the feelings and the thoughts and the other senses and I know you WIN over those too!

On PC, and elsewhere, everyday and everyhour and everyminute each one of us works on this, and, well, it makes us all winners. Kind of like iceskaters do. They practise by working at getting better, a little bit at a time. And then one day, they are off....

I'll keep reaching out for help and receiving it, will you?

You are really loved and cared about here and you can relax and feel safe because there are many who will help you. There are people here who respect you, and cherish you and want to show you safety and security and yes, even real love!

Hi littlelynn!!! So happy to know you today!!!

This is a really good question Lyn. I am sorry that this happened to you. Are you in therapy?