[Littlefish]

I was abused sexually as a kid and teen, and now i still enjoy sex but not always, but i want to do it with strangers.........i m not sure if i need a real serious relationship, but same time i want a family love a warm family.....so i really dont know what to do now.....
I really dont understand the sex and why a man and woman needs to get married etc.

[chaotic13]

Originally Posted by Littlefish

I was abused sexually as a kid and teen, and now i still enjoy sex but not always, but i want to do it with strangers.

When I look back over the relationships I've had, some of the best sexual experiences I've had were with strangers. I think this is where some of the negative feelings I'm having come from. IDK what it is like for you but, I think sex for me has been only about the physical part. I think the childhood abuse created this split. It is the deeper relationships where the physical and emotional intimacy get tangled up and I really have problems. In the past, I would be OK when the relationship was just physical, but would run when I started to feel an emotional pull or started to feel like the other person was placing expectations on me. Now that I am married with children, I can't run anymore and it is very tough.

[ThePainNeverDies]

I find it just as tough, honey. You're not alone in this. Strangely enough, reading what chaotic13 has said above, feels like something that I would say.. About the whole running away when there becomes an emotional intimacy. I don't run away as such, i guess I just push the person away. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now and it is really wuite tough at times.

Please know that it does get easier and you're not alone in the way you feel

I hope this helps

*hugs for you*

Take care and PM me if you need me

Kirsten

[Sannah]

Littlefish, maybe you have a fear of intimacy going on? I had to overcome that.........