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Apr 17, 2009, 04:02 AM
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I guess you need some background on this in order to give me some advice.
To start with I have always been a very quite person and like to keep to myself. My mother never let us out of the house and I always had to beg for days just to go over to my best friends house and was never allowed to go to sleepovers ever!!! I was also molested by the son of a family friend. This has made me even less social. I find myself to scared of being touched by men, I am 23 and have never been kissed. I always say no when asked out and I do not feel safe at all when left alone with a man in public or private. I cannot talk to people, I can never think of anything to say. I mean if you are done with "how r u?" Any plans for the weekend" then I hit a blank. How am I suppose to start dating if I am to scared of the person and have nothing to say. I am scared and not socialized at all" Any advice? |
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Apr 17, 2009, 05:54 PM
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Melis, I think that is a perfect way to use PsychCentral! You can polish up on your social skills (or create any you lack) through posting and through chatting.
Don't sit back and watch, but join in. Get your feet wet and hopefully before long you'll feel more comfortable IRL too. If you wish to begin to go out with others, try activities that don't allow a lot of talking...such as the movies, or sports. Before you begin dating, go out with another friend or two for a bit, and then maybe a double date opportunity will come along. Good wishes!
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Apr 18, 2009, 10:25 PM
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PC has help me. I often use it as a testing stage. Post something... See what kid of responses it gets here. The maybe try to share a watered down verson of something in RL.
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Apr 19, 2009, 03:01 AM
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i dunno @_@ I don't date (and i'm 32... scared out of my skin). but i want to wish you the best of luck and I admire your courage to change your situation. courage be yours!!!!
Standing from the sidelines and cheering you on!! kiya
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Apr 19, 2009, 11:32 AM
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You can overcome all of this with focus, understanding and a plan of what you need to learn and work through..........
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Apr 20, 2009, 07:51 AM
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Thank you all for the great advise. It is really appreciated.
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Don't waste time regretting or expecting too much in your life. Tomorrow is a mystery. But Today is a gift - and that is why it is called the PRESENT. |
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