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Old Aug 20, 2015, 07:19 PM
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So I've been sober 2 & 1/2 years now and for the first time I've heard someone say to me that they want what I have. I didnt know how to respond...it was someone I've known through the program for 13 years but only has 15 months. I dont know...it was just awkward.

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Old Aug 21, 2015, 06:14 PM
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It isn't easy to answer a question not expected. So what I have done is go back the next time and ask them a followup. Like "I want to thank you for what you said about wanting what I have. No one has ever said that to me. I was tongue tied. Thank you so much.

Was there something else you had a question about that I might try to answer or clarify about what I said?"

This builds the other person's self esteem and also gives you a chance to say anything else needed.
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Old Aug 21, 2015, 07:37 PM
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Why do you have to say anything? Saying even 'cool' would work...

I get annoyed with people in AA who just spit out slogans or lectures or act like an expert because they have a week longer of sobriety... But that's just me, a lot of people get something out of that type of encouragement.
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Old Aug 21, 2015, 09:11 PM
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I did say thanks. Just caught me off guard.
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Old Aug 23, 2015, 03:39 PM
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Helping a different friend with her first fourth step friday as long as i dont have to work. Will find out for sure tonight when I go in to close at work.
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