[EnglishMajor]

I was just wondering because most everyone here sees to be in their 20s at most. I have a difficult time relating to problems about boyfriends, mean girlfriends, MySpace, and sex, because that was 100 years ago for me.

Maybe we could start a thread for older women?

[notz]

Hello EnglishMajor,

There's a social group entitled "Women over 40", will that work for you?

http://forums.psychcentral.com/group.php?groupid=12

[bebop]

I am over 50. there are others here also.

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by notz

There's a social group entitled "Women over 40", will that work for you?

http://forums.psychcentral.com/group.php?groupid=12

I didn't know about this group...... How do I join (almost 42 here).

[notz]

Originally Posted by Rhapsody

I didn't know about this group...... How do I join (almost 42 here).

Go to thread http://forums.psychcentral.com/group.php?groupid=12

This is the intro:
Women over 40

Group Created by nonightowl
I wanted to create a group for women mainly 40 and over, who are experiencing things like insomnia, mood swings, anxiety..while maybe also dealing with aging parents, possible career change (voluntary or not),"empty nest" ..that kinda thing. So, if you want to share/request coping strategies or just need someone to listen, I thought this would be a good place!

Note I said "mainly", not "only". If you're 35 but FEEL 40 cause you can relate to this, that's close enough!! Join! LOL

Lighthearted topics, such as makeup, hair care, and fashions are always welcome too!

[Hunny]

How to put this graciously. There is a huge difference between women over 40 and women over 50 and probably a huge difference between women over 50 and women over 60 and on it goes. This is the first time in, shall I say 100's of years where women enmass have lived this long (men too probably but we're discussing women here). I mean this is the first time in 70 years in my family of origin that 3 generations of females have been alive at the same time!

As a society we are living longer and looking and feeling younger than our ancestors, immediate and further back. I am generalizing quite a lot here but I know my mother and grandmother were much older than me at 50, due to hardships of prairie life and restrictions of the day.

My 50's have been so different than I remember my 40's being. I was just finishing raising up young people, experiencing empty nest. These past years have been really soul searching and focusing on anything left undone. I would never have had the time in my forties to be this reflective.

So, I have joined the group over 40 but feel something is missing. Nothing anyone did intentionally but I am experiencing many different things a 40 year old might just roll their eyes at. Trying not to be too sensitive about it here but it would be nice to be validated somehow.

[Capp]

way over 50...

Ice, I understand what you are saying

Cap

[kittenkirk]

Originally Posted by EnglishMajor

I was just wondering because most everyone here sees to be in their 20s at most. I have a difficult time relating to problems about boyfriends, mean girlfriends, MySpace, and sex, because that was 100 years ago for me.

Maybe we could start a thread for older women?

I'm 53 and I go on the chat and have insightful conversations with members to find out that they're only 22 or 24. Wow to my surprise! I even listened to one interpreting dreams for others in one room to later attend an over 21+ room to find out this person was only 16.

The youth of today are very intelligent...and crafty. I wouldn't have know since the conversations aren't about empty nest, or being a grandmother for the first time.

This being said...maybe I should find those my own age to learn life about. The over 40 group isn't really appealing to me since I don't have teenagers or relationships that I can relate to.

At 53, I am going through my new realization of myself, probably for the first time in my life. I guess that's why I'm not so interesting in finding a mate...I've had many in my day.....where those relationships were more about them than me. So at my age I'd like to communicate with others who are alone and finding this a little difficult but also are trying to cope and enjoy life.

[ECHOES]

I am here and I am older than dirt

I'm 55+ and sure would like to talk to others who are rediscovering themselves after the kids are way gone, possibly are grandparents (or not)

I am in this period of healing and discovery. Finding the talents and desires that were squashed down and silenced for many yrs. only to resurface and become part of my now life.

i lack the motivation to keep up with this.
i am sometimes very lonely
i need support from women who understand the everyday workings of this over 50 yr old body and the stuff life is about in this period of our lives.

[Beholden]

English Major

Really. I've paid my dues. I agree with all the other posters.

Let's start a new social group for those "50 and better".

This is at least one thing I qualify for, something I can do nothing about and like it that way just fine.

Rediscovery and all that you others posted about deserves our own club.

[RomanSunburn]

I just wanted to say I've really enjoyed reading this thread. I realize that while I'm only 22 and can't really understand your experiences first hand, I can still see my mother in each and everyone of you. My mother has recently turned 55 and has also "rediscovered herself" after both her baby birds left the nest.

I just wanted to let you girls know that I've really appreciated getting to listen to you!
Ro

[Beholden]

Go to new social group named, "Ladies 50 and better" for the latest in chats for "us" who will "wear purple" when we are 50!

Thanks for the idea all you above. This may just relate to where we are right now.

Hgimm (short for Hey, God, its me, Margaret!)

[Capp]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

I am here and I am older than dirt

me too!
have you discovered that we now have the ability to toot dust?

[Beholden]

Is that why my place is so dusty? That is really a terrific line. I must remember it. And thanks for joining the new social club Capp!

[bebop]

toot dust! hahahahahaha too funny. at least us older gals have a sense of humor! lol

[EnglishMajor]

Originally Posted by white_iris

I'm 55+ and sure would like to talk to others who are rediscovering themselves after the kids are way gone, possibly are grandparents (or not)

I am in this period of healing and discovery. Finding the talents and desires that were squashed down and silenced for many yrs. only to resurface and become part of my now life.

i lack the motivation to keep up with this.
i am sometimes very lonely
i need support from women who understand the everyday workings of this over 50 yr old body and the stuff life is about in this period of our lives.

WhiteIris, you are not alone. Please feel free to email me or message anytime.

[EnglishMajor]

Sorry for my long absence. I am in graduate school (yes at my age), and have had emotional problems stemming from my mother's death in January.

I am so so happy to find other women over 50 here. A common theme seems to be the lack of a support network. I have no family left and am not married. My support network consists of my college professors and my pets. Otherwise, I am my own support network, which is why I feel strongly that those of us who hang out in the forums should band together for support and discussing experiences which are unique to our age group.

Anybody with me?

[Capp]

Oh yeah, English Major!

I offer my condolences on the loss of your mother...

Mine died nearly two years ago and I'm still working through some issues concerning my relationship with her.
It's a different level/aspect--if that is the right way to explain it.

Support from women our age is a tremendous gift!
I am fortunate in having some irl, but there are limits to what is shared...many important issues (to me) are brushed aside with, "You are a big girl now so what do you expect?"
Gee, commiseration would be nice...humor about things...being allowed to cry from frustration would be nice.

My first attempt with grad school was a fiasco...
It was too soon after the Vietnam war and I was the subject of many accusations and ridicule--some from my professors!
Second attempt was easier and successful. I attribute that to my *****y attitude that kept those folks from bothering me.

Shoot, now I'm old enough to take classes for free. I can play instead of praying...

Cap

[EnglishMajor]

You're so right, Capps, that many issues are brushed aside because of our age. "You're feeling a little homicidal today? Calm down, it's just a part of the aging process and perfectly natural." Shut up you damn feminists Our Body Ourselves. You were never relevant anyway.

What was your major in grad school, Capps?

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by EnglishMajor

I was just wondering because most everyone here sees to be in their 20s at most. I have a difficult time relating to problems about boyfriends, mean girlfriends, MySpace, and sex, because that was 100 years ago for me.

Maybe we could start a thread for older women?

I'm 38 and I experience frustration, disinterest, and alienation often in "youthful" posts or interests.

Shez

[Capp]

Originally Posted by EnglishMajor

You're so right, Capps, that many issues are brushed aside because of our age. "You're feeling a little homicidal today? Calm down, it's just a part of the aging process and perfectly natural." Shut up you damn feminists Our Body Ourselves. You were never relevant anyway.

What was your major in grad school, Capps?

MA-Forensic Mental Health Counseling

If I had a penny for every time I heard, either for myself or another woman, to take a pill and chill...
I would be rich except for the current economic downturn

On a more serious note, this "recession" hit my little portfolio with one big bat.
It's small comfort that others were also...

[EnglishMajor]

Capp...that bites. How do you deal with that?
I'll be graduating with my MA soon, and the job prospects are next to zero. Joke is on me. I thought more education would lead to better prospects and security. I'm being turned down for secretarial jobs by the federal government.
Suicide can't be that painless.

Originally Posted by EnglishMajor

Sorry for my long absence. I am in graduate school (yes at my age), and have had emotional problems stemming from my mother's death in January.

I am so so happy to find other women over 50 here. A common theme seems to be the lack of a support network. I have no family left and am not married. My support network consists of my college professors and my pets. Otherwise, I am my own support network, which is why I feel strongly that those of us who hang out in the forums should band together for support and discussing experiences which are unique to our
age group.

Anybody with me?

Gosh English

I didn't think there were any of my breed left. Im 53 going on 30 . never been married , no children , Mother and father dead for 12 and 19 years. My support ? Is my interactions with my clients who are usually older some younger. I gave up dating 12 years ago . But I have hopes of having what Ive never had ,, But finding a man in my same shoes . I think is doubtful. I found one briefly whos bisexual... wonderul



I'm not in a great place emotionally. just too many hurtful things handed my way lately and My soul love of My life my Dog Is very ill. changes day to day.

The last four or five years have been the most trying and painful In my life. I feel Ive aged a bunch .because of it.
I can't say at this point Ill be here to be in your group.

But I
want to say yes Im over 50. humble underpaid gardener who is totally feeked about the future . And no retirement no back up no support.

Patricia

[1oxbowgirl]

I am 55 going on 56. But I enjoy talking with anyone who needs someone to talk to. I think it is hard dealing with older age as our brains still think we are thirty until we try doing stuff we used to do at that age and that is when our body says no--way. 1Girl