I don't understand....

stupid? other planet? no I just thought you were from a background where sex and the body topics were taboo, like in my background, those things just were not talked about in my family or others in my neighborhood. everyone around me knew people had sex and sometimes who got caught with who, who was cheating on who and in my case who "ruined" (mountain talk for my being sexually abused) me, and how I was "ruined" but our own bodys and sex in relation to ourselves just wasnt talked about. I found out about sex and my body topics from my therapist and planned parenthood programs.

Im glad you are feeling better and I was able to help with that

I can totally see why you feel that way Fins, so dont feel like your the only one. I can see why it makes you nervous, seeing that women hit puberty, and grow hair, and children do not, so that makes alot of sence. I think there are lots of things that seperate us from the child look, like one of the most parts are Boobs, height, weight, hair, ect. I do believe that some women might be going bald to look more younger. Which is really gross. But there are alot who doit because they just dont like hair or find it more appealing.

Thanks for making this thread, really interesting topic to talk about

You are spot on-- from a background where sex and body topics were taboo. Such things were NEVER talked about-- not menstruation, shaving, bras and definately not sex... none of it was ever talked about.
I'm sorry you experienced similar.

Sure has made things harder as an adult..... feel so "out of step" most times.
I'm finding it amazing- learning what most people grew up being taught and then compare it to my upbringing...... odd how it's taken me so long to realize how far back near "start" I was as an adult-- coming into the game of life.... kind of embarrassing.... hard to NOT feel dumb.
I knew a girl in 8th grade that got pregnant by her father(she told me not to tell anyone) and coming from the home I came from-- I knew very well not to tell ANYONE....ugh...
Not a day goes by that I don't wonder what ever happened to that girl.(she dropped out of school to have the baby and never came back)

thank you amandalouise, somehow-- you really heard me.

and thanks Yoshi-- you do understand.

best to all

fins

I want to say thank you to fins for starting this thread, and to all who replied! I never realized this subject was such an issue for anyone but me!!

I had been in the habit of trimming myself for bathing suit season from a relatively young age because I found any exposed hair embarrassing. I started shaving because I simply found it more convenient than trying to trim things in a way that was symmetrical. Once I was in the habit I found it more comfortable overall, especially when I was on my period.

My ex made me feel really bad about this. She thought it looked child like and didn't like it. If she had just put it nicely, said something like, 'I think it would look really sexy if you had some hair there,' I would have happily grown some and felt fine about it. Instead, she made me feel like I'd done something creepy and weird by shaving it. So I accomodated her, but I felt ashamed about myself and my body as a result.(things like this are part of the reason she's an ex!)

I think it is just a matter of personal preference and comfort for most people, and has nothing to do with wanting to look like a child, or being attracted to someone who looks like a child. I think women are sexy when they feel confident about their body and appearance. So, whichever way makes you feel more comfortable and confident is what I find attractive.

I too have often felt "out of step" when it comes to my sexual health and education. Due to abuse, I had to un-learn a lot of things I thought about sex and love, and re-learn correct things in order to have a healthy sex life as an adult. Happily, I have made what I think is a lot of progress in this area.

Thanks so much to everyone for sharing their insights into this matter!

Thaks Purplefins for starting this topic and all for posting! I love that we can have a discussion about this on PC and learn from each other.