[jrae]

okay, so i have no clue if there is anyone on here who feels like i do. lately, it seems like i cannot stop thinking about sex. i'm in my mid-twenties and still have not had sex yet. recently, i have given some thought to asking a "guy friend" of mine if he would be my first. there are a few things that worry me though. i have no idea how i would even bring up the topic or ask him. i'm also worried that if i do ask him, he'd run for the hills. and it's been a little while since we have hung out together, just the two of us.

also, i have treatment-resistant depression, so it's not like dating a guy is something that happens regularly. do alot of other women think like this or am i just in the minority on this one???

[with or without you]

I'm 29 and I haven't been with anyone either. I feel like I could have written some of your post. As for always having sex on your mind, it's totally normal...my therapist said mid to late 20's is when the female sex drive really increases. I have thought of the "friends with benefits" thing as well, but I think I need to really be in love with that person in order for it to completely satisfy me. Have you tried masturbating? You deserve to feel that pleasure even if you're not with anyone. I have social phobia so I struggle with shyness/childhood feelings of shame, etc. so that's why I am still in my "V-status." Take care.

[salukigirl]

Seems like I only think about when it's NOT available lol (of course). My bf has been gone for 4 days I'm going CRAZY! Granted, I lost my virginity at 15 and it was terrible. Hated it. Didn't officially have an orgasm until 17 and that was pretty damn awesome.

Have you ever brought yourself to orgasm by masturbating? It will definitely be better if you understand what makes you feel good before you jump into it. Don't want your first time to be disappointing!

How do you think he would react to you asking? I know some guys would be all over it but I also know a lot of guys are weirded out by taking a woman's virginity. Let us know how it goes!!!

[Evening]

I am 23 and have never done it, I've never even been on a date or had a relationship. In fact I've never done ANYTHING. I understand what you mean, I do daydream/fantasise about it a lot, and I get really envious of people who have relationships and have sex. But at the same, if the opportunity did arise, I wouldn't do it, I really want to wait. So it's that fight between wanting to wait, and being tooooootally desperate.

[Irine]

I understand how you feel about it. Have you ever thought of being more conscious, aware of what you TRULY want and what it is on your mind when you think about dating and sex?
Because the universe reacts to our deepest believes....