[splitimage]

I have a friend who is really messed up emotionally. She has many psych issues. She also has absolutely no verbal filters when it comes to talking to me. I feel kind of bad for her because as far as I know I'm the only one, other than her husband, that she'll talk about psych issues too because she's too embarrassed for her other friends to know.

The thing is she frequently tells me stuff, I'd just rather not know. For example, last time we were talking she told me she really misses orgasms, and how great her orgasms used to be. But that now between psych meds and menopause she just can't have them. She then tells me that lube helps a bit but it's just not the same.

I'm thinking - ok, I so do not need to know this. We're just not that close.

But I don't know how to tell her I don't want to hear about her sex life without hurting her feelings as she's very insecure.

--splitimage

[lynn P.]

I can understand why this would be awkward and I wouldn't be comfortable either. Maybe you can try saying, "honestly this is something you need to speak with your doctor about". Really she should speak with her doctor - maybe he/she could change to a different med which doesn't have those side affects. Also due to her menopause there are solutions like estrogen creams or even she could be low on testosterone because women have this hormone too, which affects libido. Keep it simple and pass the buck.

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by splitimage

I have a friend who is really messed up emotionally. She has many psych issues. She also has absolutely no verbal filters when it comes to talking to me. I feel kind of bad for her because as far as I know I'm the only one, other than her husband, that she'll talk about psych issues too because she's too embarrassed for her other friends to know.

The thing is she frequently tells me stuff, I'd just rather not know. For example, last time we were talking she told me she really misses orgasms, and how great her orgasms used to be. But that now between psych meds and menopause she just can't have them. She then tells me that lube helps a bit but it's just not the same.

I'm thinking - ok, I so do not need to know this. We're just not that close.

But I don't know how to tell her I don't want to hear about her sex life without hurting her feelings as she's very insecure.

--splitimage

LMAO! Seriously you will laugh about this in a while. Just be dead honest with your friend and say, 'Umm.. that really is TMI! I definitely can't help you with that one!'

Hugs

[(JD)]

I'd tell her that SOME times she gives too much info and then the both of you decide on a word or phrase you'll say to tell her this, so she'll stop immediately with what she's relating.

You know, there's a come back for everything... and I'm sure you can find one for this. I recently heard someone tell another person to go F themselves...to which the reply was, (with a smile) oh I'll have to work on that..