Job loss

I am getting married in March. I have a great job and no debt and my fiance who I love very much lost his job this week and pays about 400 to various credit cards each month. I love him and we have joined accounts so that it is our debt but of course there is a little resentment with this. Especially since he lost his job. I love him very much but he just can't seem to find his career path. I can't leave him because of that. Our love is bigger than that. This is a tiny setback in a life we have planned together. I feel depresesd for him not to mention the self esteem issues he is facing because of this.

I think we're in similar boats. My fiance and I are getting married in June. He is also out of work right now without a solid plan for his future. We don't have much debt, though, mostly just student loans and the majority of them are mine (his parents paid for his college, so we're lucky in that department). The scary thing is right now I'm working three jobs, none of which I like, and we're living pay check to pay check for the most part. I've spent a lot of my recent therapy sessions on our relationship, figuring out how I can be supportive and not let resentment creep in. I work hard to be understanding. He took care of me when I needed it, so I am trying to take care of him now that he needs it. He's slowly figuring out what he wants to do and how to do it, but it's going to take time. We keep telling each other that as long as we have each other, we'll be fine. We have to get through all the crap now, but we'll get to have our happily ever after soon. And not to mention, if we make it through this, which we will, we'll never have to worry about getting divorced because we've already been through hell and back together, as a team. After some serious consideration, we decided my fiance should try to get a seasonal Christmas job (he's interviewing as I write this!), while still investigating how to become a teacher (which is what he's always wanted to do).

I know how frustrating it is. I know how much it hurts. My fiance lost all his self esteem, self confidence, self worth when he lost his job. He's been extremely depressed. But by being supportive and loving towards each other, we can get through this. I know you can get through it too.