[weird artist]

I am absolutely desperate to have another baby with my partner! We have a 7 year old son, and I have managed to keep my broodiness under control for the last 6 years, but it is getting serious, I would never deceive him but I can't stop fantasizing about the condom breaking, or him refusing to put one on... He wants another child but wants me to wait a few years until I have completed my studies. I work full time and study part time and am the main caregiver for our son, so tbh I think having 6months off my incredibly stressful job and several sleepless nights would be easier!!!

We would be ok financially, I have some money saved up tucked away just in case, and my parents are well off and happy to support us if it happened.

I would also like a child sooner rather than later because I have hypermobile joints, and they seem to be getting more painful as I am getting older (only 24 now but there is a huge difference to a few years ago) and I don't think I will cope with pregnancy as well if we wait much longer.

I'm currently avoiding all baby shops, chemists and friends with newborns/bumps like the plague because I am so worried I will go nuts with a pin if anything else tries to persuade me further! I swear my boobs would start leaking milk if a baby cried anywhere near me

Please help me keep things in line before I do something really stupid or get in trouble!

The only other time I felt anywhere near this broody I was already pregnant.

[Elana05]

Hi weird artist,
Is counseling an option for the 2 of you?

[AnotherDayDown]

Originally Posted by Elana05

Hi weird artist,
Is counseling an option for the 2 of you?

Don't have another one if HE isn't ready. Even if it is an "accident," he will not be happy...which will only make you sad. If he can't enjoy having another one, then it will put you down. I think counseling would be good for you, even if its just to figure out a good way to talk to your husband about having another baby. A counselor would help you express yourself to your husband without upsetting him.

[salukigirl]

I don't necessarily agree with ADD saying that he would not be happy even if it were an "accident". I am not saying to go ahead and poke holes in a condom but I only know a couple people who had a child 100% by choice.

My big thing is that you say you have a 7 yr old and you are only 24? It doesn't sound like you have had a chance to even be a young adult, having a child at 17. What do you think is making you "broody"?

[weird artist]

yeah, we were young when we had our son, but we did stupid stuff as young teens, there is no need for me to be a 'young adult' I already went out with friends and got drunk, and listened to loud music and got in night clubs, and tbh it was rubbish, I'm much happier being a parent, and so is OH, we support each other and manage to find time to go out occasionally, so its not like I am chained to a sink (and nor is he).

The thing is, having been together for so many years, I know him well enough (and have seen the way he looks at his sisters new baby) to say he would absolutely love a baby, he just has his logical hat on, and can't see the same positives I can, like not having a toddler in our 30s, and me actually having more time to complete my studying (you get 6months standard maternity leave here, and while a baby is difficult, there would be more time).

I guess the main reason for feeling this way is probably hormonal, followed by always wanting children, and wanting somebody for my son to play with (yes I know there will be a huge age gap) and share with.

I'm feeling a little less crazy about it, but I am still desperate for an accident.

[weird artist]

Originally Posted by Elana05

Hi weird artist,
Is counseling an option for the 2 of you?

not really, OH won't go anywhere near psychiatrists, and I have been through enough counselling to know what my local services are like (good, but limited).