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Aug 27, 2012 at 09:04 PM
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I want support going through this but at the same time I want people to shut up about what I should be doing. My stepdad said to me today, get on a waiting list for adoption! arggghhhh. Kinda sick of people asking why we aren't preg yet. I'm 34 and have always wanted kids.
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Aug 29, 2012 at 01:19 AM
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Hi princess,
Have you seen an OB/Gyn to determine whether or not there are physical factors getting in the way of conception? There are a few different chronic illnesses that affect our ability to conceive. If you're seriously ready and anxious to start a family, I'd recommend that you make sure that there aren't any physical factors complicating your ability to become pregnant. So, please do make an appointment with an OB/Gyn for their professional opinion on what you can/should do to increase likelihood of becoming pregnant. very best wishes to you ~ take care! __________________ "Only in the darkness can you see the stars." - Martin Luther King Jr. "Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace." - Author Unkown |
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Aug 29, 2012 at 01:53 PM
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I don't know why people think that your pregnancy or lack thereof is any of their business. It seems pretty universal though. I recently got married, got pregnant right away, but miscarried. This was very hard for me because it was a very wanted pregnancy. In the weeks after, I had more than one person ask me if I was pregnant yet, if I wanted kids, if I was going to get pregnant soon... It was like a knife to my heart. One person had noticed I was acting differently or something and asked me point blank if I was pregnant. I told her that I had been but wasn't anymore. I figured that it was a good reminder to her that she was asking about something highly personal and had no idea about some of the underlying things that might be going on.
People should know that the rule with regard to someone else's pregnancy status is "speak only when spoken to!" Hang in there, EJ |
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Aug 29, 2012 at 02:15 PM
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I hear what both of you both of you Princess T and Eliza Jane are saying. I have been pregnant 4 times and miscarried on three of them. My daughter I managed to carry to term was on my second when I was 20 and in college.
I would go home often and cry when someone would ask me if we were trying to get pregnant again. It was just as though someone took a knife and stabbed me in the guts and then twisted it for a while. Recently I have been told that I cannot get pregnant again. It was as though all my dreams of holding a baby of my own in my arms again had died. I cried for 2 days. Babies are really a gift from God and to be valued and treasured. All the free and unsolicited advice you get can be really hurtful and seldom ever helps. I just want to extend hugs and let you know that I care |
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