[BelleCat]

Hello ladies,
So I have a question for you. It's about something I have no experience in, and so I need a little advice so to speak.
I will add here: if I decide to do this, I will be over 21. I'm 18 now. I want plenty of time to think on it.

I have no interest in having children. I love babies, but my personality disorders and whatnot make me isolated, and cause me to have a difficulty expressing emotions to others in a healthy way. Plus if I lose it down the road, my kids will have to see that, just like I had to watch my parents lose it, and I don't want that for them. So I'm not having kids.

But, it feels so wrong to have the ability to be pregnant and birth babies, when others who want children so badly can't. So I was considering donating my eggs to a center so women who want to be pregnant, but can't can have the opportunity to. The thing is, I have a bunch of mood disorders like I said, would that be in the genetic makeup of the egg? I am sure whoever would take my eggs would love the child all the same, but would an egg donor place take them?
I have never been arrested, I have no bad legal history, and my disorders are not violent, but I'm still not sure about it.

Any ideas or suggestions?
Thanks!
BelleCAT

[ickydog2006]

Is there a history of mental illness in your family. If so, I wouldn't. I'm sure a couple would love any child, but they might not be aware of how to deal with mental illness issues, and thus could make things worse.

[BelleCat]

Originally Posted by ickydog2006

Is there a history of mental illness in your family. If so, I wouldn't. I'm sure a couple would love any child, but they might not be aware of how to deal with mental illness issues, and thus could make things worse.

Yeah, there is. But it seems wrong to not use my fertility when someone else who wants a baby isn't fertile. I dunno. I guess it probably isn't a good idea.

[Big Mama]

I agree if there are issues w/ mental illness that can be passed down by heredity I would not. Please don't anyone get angry w/ me. But a saroget (sp) where you carry someone elses implanted sperm and egg and grow the baby inside of you and give birth to the baby and return it to the doners of the egg and sperm. There is a demand for that, check w/ infertility clinics I suppose is where I'd start.

I know that is not a traditional option, but if you really feel you need to make a contribution you could very well do that.

[ickydog2006]

Surrogacy came to my mind as well. If I hadn't had such a horrible pregnancy it is something I would consider.

[BelleCat]

Thanks! I'll think about it!

[hamster-bamster]

You are too young, probably, to be diagnosed with personality disorders and to make permanent decisions about having children. You will have plenty of time to change your mind. Put it on ice and work on other important things for now.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by BelleCat

Hello ladies,
So I have a question for you. It's about something I have no experience in, and so I need a little advice so to speak.
I will add here: if I decide to do this, I will be over 21. I'm 18 now. I want plenty of time to think on it.

I have no interest in having children. I love babies, but my personality disorders and whatnot make me isolated, and cause me to have a difficulty expressing emotions to others in a healthy way. Plus if I lose it down the road, my kids will have to see that, just like I had to watch my parents lose it, and I don't want that for them. So I'm not having kids.

But, it feels so wrong to have the ability to be pregnant and birth babies, when others who want children so badly can't. So I was considering donating my eggs to a center so women who want to be pregnant, but can't can have the opportunity to. The thing is, I have a bunch of mood disorders like I said, would that be in the genetic makeup of the egg? I am sure whoever would take my eggs would love the child all the same, but would an egg donor place take them?
I have never been arrested, I have no bad legal history, and my disorders are not violent, but I'm still not sure about it.

Any ideas or suggestions?
Thanks!
BelleCAT

You are extremely confused in your usage of terminology, in bold. You either do not have a doctor willing to explain to you what if anything is wrong with you, or whatever. Personality disorders are usually not heritable. Mood disorders are heritable to some extent. It is not clear whether you have any. What is clear is that you do not have enough information to base such a serious decision on and should wait.